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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Before i start, what i have said may sound cocky or sure of myself, but honestly i don't mean it like that. I just don't know how else to put it.When i go out in the evening, I normally get ALOT of male attention and like anybody else i love it! It's fun and makes me feel great. I mean how many girls wouldn't like loads of male attention and hearing compliments right?Before you think anything bad of me, i don't wear anything revealing, i don't send any bad signals off or even get with any guys when i'm out. So i'm really respectful of myself.. And I don't look or crave attention from guys like my friends do, but because i get a heck of a lot of it, i guess i'm just used to it!So that said, when i have the odd nights where i get hardly any attention, or none. I get into one of these off, unhappy moods and feel low... I look at other girls in the place and think well they're better looking then me, no wonder the guys aren't showing me interest when girls like that are here!It's really bad, because i don't want to feel low and be in a mood JUST because guys aren't showing interest!? Nor do i want to be putting myself down and feel insecure and have low self esteem!!? I hate feeling like that, how can i stop this and just have a good time and not care about the attention, even though it's something i'm used to.....
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 You'll stop caring about the attention when you realize it means absolutely nothing when it is based on your looks alone.
How about wanting to be appreciated for your brains and/or you accomplishments or volunteer work in the community??
These are the things that truly mean something, to yourself as well as others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): Well, in your case, the best way to be in a better mood when any attention is directed toward somebody else is to be real and honest with yourself. Clearly you do crave attention, otherwise it wouldn't bother you so much when you don't get it. Stop lying to yourself and instead see yourself for who you are. When you can be real with yourself it will be easier for you to overcome these feelings of inadequacy. As long as you continue lying to yourself and believing that you don't crave attention when deep down you really do, you won't be able to fix the problem. The first step to fixing anything is acceptance. Be aware, acknowledge and accept who you truly are. The minute you can do this you will be able to overcome anything.
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