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writes:ive got somewhat of a different question to ask...i 18 and have 2 kids as my other question started out but i want to move out ive been trying to find a place for almost 6 months now and its very complicated ive even tried to get into manitoba housing but was told that i dont qualify for a 3 bedroom because both my kids are girls and under the age of 5 and that there are absolutely no 2 bedrooms in the area i am trying to apply for when yet my friend is pregnant and with her boyfreind and she asked for a 2 bedroom and they put her on a list automatically that does not make any sence to me because of the fact that i already have my kids and should of been put in to consideration befor my friend was put on the list..i really want to get out of the house i am living in because there is no getting anywhere in this town the parks are thrashed and are not even close to safe for kids its the same people everyday there is one store here but is only a gas bar and i have to travel 25 minutes to get to school everday there is day care out here but i do not trust the people who run it because it is very unpreddictable(srry not to sure how to spell that) anyways my question is...how can i get out my house and moved out into a place?? advice and help please i would have wrotten more about my situation but there is way to much to write
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Well, I assumed that the daycare was the problem as you cryptically wrote that it was unpredictable. I had to assume that it wasn't a reliable one.So you are not happy living with your mother and step father. You're not happy with your step father because when he gets mad at you you do not understand what he is trying to tell you even though you write that he does try to help you and "...he does do a lot such as supporting me and my kids and so on." You say you don't see eye-to-eye with your mom. I would say that at your age it is pretty normal to feel this way about your parents. Your parents were young as well and they know what is best for you. You have to respect your mom and the way she wants to do things in her home. I'm sure your mom is under stress too because of her difficulties with you and you have to respect her too. You probably disobeyed her when you went out with your boyfriend and had your two children at such a young age. So your mom is probably rightly mad at you that your disobedience has only created more problems and now you are the one that wants to escape.Why didn't you think about your children's future before they were born? You knew were you lived and what the circumstances were. You knew the area well. You knew the parks were not nice and that the area was poor. Why didn't you wait until much later to have children?But now you want to escape from your situation. You haven't given a good reason to move. In fact you have shown that you probably need to stay with your parents so you can finish your schooling and get a job to support your children. You have to feel the consequences of your earlier decisions to motivate you to do what is necessary to get into the lifestyle that you want.If your parents cannot help you with caring for your children and you need to work then that can be a reason to give the social worker in your case to find you housing elsewhere so you can get to your job or school.You need to realize that the government didn't have your children and they do not owe you a better place to live because you had children when you weren't ready to have them. Perhaps your friend has a much different situation at her parents home and that is why she was given priority over you.Try to use this situation to grow as a person. You are quite young. Try to be a better person with your mom and step dad. Your children will be happier in a home where there is more harmony. p.s. I'm pretty surprised that the government of Manitoba is able to provide young people with children with two bedroom homes at reduced rents. Young people in the rest of the world have to grin and bear it with their parents or relatives until they themselves are able to afford a better place to live.
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reader, squishysammiie +, writes (16 June 2009):
squishysammiie is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok well this techincally wasnt answered right because my kids are not in day care yet and everything was assummed in this answer...here i will explain my question some what different i have 2 kids...and im 18 i have been trying to move out for 6 months and it has been very hard trying to find a place i even tried to go to manitoba housing and i was told that i didnt qualify for a 3 bedroom because both kids are under the age of 5 and that there were no 2 bedrooms wat so ever in the area...which was a lie because my friend had gone to the same manitoba housing for the same area and stated that she was pregnant and was automatically put on the list for a 2bedroom place...which i absolutely dont find fair at all because i should have been taken in to consideration befor she did because i already have my kids and need to get out of where i am living...the day care in my area would most likely take my kids but i do not trust putting them in day care here because nothing is run properly and nothing is ever on time. also there are no good park facilites around here they are absolutely atroshious and distorted which is very dangerous for children. it is a very small place and there is alotta drinking in the place (not my home but the area i live in)i do not get along with my mom that often it is very hard for me to do so because she likes to do things one way and i like to do them a different way which makes it almost impossible to get through the day. my step dad is very odd and some what mean...he doesnt not make very much sence when he tries to get mad...but he does do alot such as supporting me and my kids and so on...but i still need to get out of this place i need my own space or im going to go nuts...seriously living in the house with 3 other people does not help me...anyways that is basically what i meant by twhat i wrote
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): SO you have two children under five and you're still in school. You also live on your own in some type of community housing that you dislike and that it is very far from your school. You also don't like the daycare your children are at because it is not reliable. On some days the daycare is closed and you can't be at school.I would recommend that you speak with a school counselor at your school and explain your situation. Perhaps they can tell you which government agencies can help you with your search for new housing. If you tell them that you can't attend school because you can't get proper daycare and that you have have been trying to be a good student but the child care issue is not allowing you to then maybe someone will be motivated to do something for you. You need to show that you want to study and get a job or career out of it. If you plan to just get housing just so you can get a better place to live and not do anything to show for it your search will take a long time or may be never realized.
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