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writes:Its me again this girl that wrote this columb -http://www.dearcupid.org/question/help--how-can-i-move-on-with.htmlSo lately I have hit an all time low. Having the love of my life break up with me for someone is hurting me more and more everyday. We had our whole future planned out and everything was perfect and we were so much in love. But this other girl had to get involved and interuptted everything and got him to change his mind. Now he is dating her and I just cant believe she took him away from me after how much we loved each other. It just hurts so much. He probably has forgotten all about me and everything we were. She is in one of my classes and she doesnt care about my feelings at all and she glares at me all the time. She always tries to show off that shes with him. I cant believe this happened to us. I heard that she didnt want him to come to one of her games and she wouldnt pick out any classes with him and she tells him to leave her alone sometimes when shes with him and he still picked her over me. We were together for 2 years. How can i move on with my life and get over this. Sometimes I wonder if he is over it or if hes just hiding the pain and regrets it. Whenever he sees me he stares me down. I just dont know what to do. Im crying my eyes out as I write this. Somebody please please please help me.
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reader, sueannstep  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 I am so sorry that you are in so much pain. You are probably not going to want to hear this, but it will take time. I have been in your position wherein I was so sad and bawling all the time. There were times, I swear, when I thought I would never feel better... but I did, inexplicably, I did. Do yourself a favor and never show any weakness around your ex and his current gf. Don't even look at them. I am sure he has his good points, but he left and therefore, isn't worth anymore of your time. Frankly, I think you can find a better relationship. If he cheated on you and then left you- really forget him. Don't fret over whether he still has feelings for you. You are the top priority to yourself and any time guessing where his head is, is wasted time. You will, most definitely get over this. Keep moving on with your own life and take comfort in the thought that one day soon, this pain will only be a memory. I promise you will be fine. Right now, just focus on the idea of yourself, in the near future, happy. It will happen. I wish you nothing but peace of mind and comfort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): It is going to be difficuly especially since you still see him. My advise for having been in your shoes like many others, spend time with other friends, go out do not be alone, play load music to stop yourself from thinking about him. Adopt a positive attitude no matter how difficult and I PROMISE with time you will get over him and the pain gets easier everyday. Just remember you will have good days and bad days. Dont sms, dont phone coz you will feel worst especially if you dont get the desired response. The way he treated you , he is not worth it. Find someone that can be a lover and a friend that cares.
Try something new, join the gym, travelling ect. WIll make the healing alot faster. Goodluck and trust me when I say he is the biggest looser and you will find love and happiness one day.
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reader, zanzi007 +, writes (9 March 2010):
 im really sorry to hear your situation , and i have experienced this myself and it hurts like hell ,and whats worse is you have to look at your rival evryday you say she speaks to him like dirt well its often the case and you say when he sees you he stares he,s proberbly thinking what a big mistake he,s made well let him continue dating her .now heres what you do go buy some new clothes put your war paint on do this everyday when you know you gonna see him or her and attract someone worthy of your time and affection and ask yourself a question do you want him back as he has knocked your confidence win it back and show him who you are , it works spend some time enjoying yourself and the right one will come along you need tlc .i did this when my x split with me when he saw me out with my mates enoying myself he could not bear it although he had another , give it a try when he sees your not botherd he will come to you but by that time you wont want him good luck
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reader, Kenj +, writes (9 March 2010):
 Sorry to hear that and yes breakups hurt like hell and the real way to get over them is time.
I know right now you think you will never get over this, but try and focus on other things in life you will get over it in time.
Take care!
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