How can I move on when my ex and I share the same friends?

A male age 36-40, *csdjosh writes:

This past year in college I became really good friends with a guy who is in my close circle of friends. One thing led to another and we became more than just friends, it turned into a "title-less" love relationship. We both had very strong feelings for one another and were inseparable. Neither of us are "out" and open about our sexual preference because it's new for both of us, and we didn't want our friends to know, so our relationship was kept quite and not many people knew about it. We were extremely close and were together for about 5 months. But for some reason, his feelings changed in time and our relationship became one in which one person cared much more about the other person. I was constantly nice to him and did all I could to make him happy, but he started to treat me like crap, started to ignore me at times, and it seemed he only got in contact with me when he needed a favor. He ended up wanting to be "just friends" and in actuality, our "title-less" relationship ended on good terms. I wasn't mad, but I was really upset. But what now? I still have feelings for him. This coming Fall semester we are going to be in the same upper-division courses (we have the same major and upper-division classes are small). In addition, we both have the same friends (who have no idea about our relationship). I of course still have feelings for him and I know I need to get over him. How is it possible to get over your ex and be friends with your ex when you both share the exact same circle of friends?

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