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writes:Hello everyone.It started one day when I noticed this guy in my gym class. He was quite handsome... and hot. I scolded myself for not noticing him before, and I began to wonder what he would be like to talk to. I remembered him from the very first week of gym class, that my partner and I were supposed to count for his running... and that was the only time I ever spoke to him. I learned his name too. I began to always begin watching him, always making sure I got next to him in the hallway so I could take better looks at him or make myself more noticed around him. Constantly now it's like I want to know where his classes are, and what car he is driving. It's kind of like stalking, and I hate it. I always try to get in the same activity he is doing in gym class, and have recently started to become happier. I am happy whenever I see him, and I look at him and admire his hotness. This has been happening for merely two weeks, and I feel stalkery and dislike it. However I seem to be all head over heels although I barely know him... I just see him around. He knows I look at him...I'm super shy. I never can approach him to say hey. There's got to be some way I can just... finally speak to him. I wish so badly that one day by occurrence I just do it, or he says something to me. He's a straightforward kid just trying to live life, doesn't hang out with his friends much and never bothers over trivial matters. He's really, really brilliant too (he's got AP Chem, Acc. Alg. 2...etc.)If I could wish one thing all day it would be that we just spoke! I even tried looking up his address and finding out where he lives... I'm a sophomore, age 15, pretty average person except I'm always working only by myself, which is pretty much how I prefer it to be. Don't hang out with anyone often. I'm shy about dating...He - a junior. Hardworking, diligent, always participating and pretty much follows all the rules.However one thing I am glad of... I don't get embarrassed at all talking to someone I like! :)Do you have any ideas, tips, tactics, anything at all that could help a speaking-relationship work out?
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reader, HanatoKobato +, writes (23 December 2009):
HanatoKobato is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much, it is most definetely appreciated.
You're truly very nice, Sparklegirl.
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reader, Sparklegirl +, writes (5 December 2009):
Totally understand girl! It is a typical high school crush. I was always more out going and talkative but I had lots of friend like you. You have a case of crush obsession!
If you want to break the obsession and set feet upon solid ground here are somethings to know and try...
*It is nice that it is P.E. class because it is out of the normal class structure and you have a ton more freedom. So use it to your advantage!
*There are ways of talking to him without singling him out.
Examples....
1. If you guys are on the same team just by simply saying something like, "Are you guys ready to dominate???" to your whole team with a big smile, then turning your back and focusing on the game, and not making a big deal of what you just said. ~ This little act shows that you like to have fun, not super serous, cofudent, and also friendly all at the same time but you wont feel the pressure of actually talking to him. Most of the time no one will respond out loud but it might make "someone" smile. ( Think you could handle that!)
2. After a win...Saying nice wok, nice work team! and claping! And just having fun not making a big deal about it! ( hopefully you can see where I am going!)
*When feel like you can talk a little more start to single him out start with an encouragement.
Examples..
1. He makes a good shot.....simply say a short,"nice shot!"
2. He misses or messes up...."Good try" , "almost", or "next time"
3. He does something awesome....just say "whoa!"
Never making a huge deal but letting him know that your were watching him, and he is more comfortable/he is not getting judged. REMEMBER to smile! :)
* If you can get this far, Bring something up again!
1. At the end..."that was a lot of fun!" "Cant wait till tomorrow!" and walk away.
2. if you see him in the hall...."Nice shoot to day!", "You were on fire today in P.E!" and just keep walking.
This way your going more out of your way to say something to him without bringing up anything new or making a big deal about it! This will help you get more comfortable around him at school.
*This will get you to the point of begin able to a least say hi to him whenever you see him!
* ALWAYS SMILE!!!
* Don't expect anything in return....this just gets him to start to notice you! (So don't be depressed if he doesn't say anything....he will come around! Your just warming him up!)
* If he starts talking to you...just act cool and dont make a big deal about it! (keeping it short will give you excitement without getting to nerves! BUT don't be rude!)
* Until you feel more comfortable talking to him....NEVER get to worked up about what to say! Keep it simple and sweet!
* There are many other things to do and say that you may come up with on your own...Don't be afraid!
These are just a few ideas but I hope these will help you start talking without freaking out! You got this!
Good luck!! ;)
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