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writes:I've been seeing this new girl for about a month now. She is super amazing, sweet, kind, funny and the hottest girl I have ever dated and I REALLY like her. We are taking things slow because her last relationship ended badly and I didnt want to pressure her. Two nights ago we were making out and fooling around and I know that she said she wasnt ready for the sex thing yet so I excused myself and went to bathroom hoping that it would kill the moment and calm my little friend down but it didnt so I ended up jerking off and it literally took like 2 strokes and I was done. It kinda freaked me out because I can usually last pretty long. What can I do to make sure that I last longer then 5 second when we do have sex?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 April 2012):
 I'll agree with Daniel - You're probably ok, and that you were just excited. Don't fret about it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 April 2012):
 I know I'm not a guy, but my bf lasts by thinking about spreadsheets. I doubt she expects you to last a long time the first time though! You can also have a quick wank before she gets there, though that doesn't work for everyone.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (24 April 2012):
 Well first off I think that you're a good guy in respecting her wishes not to have sex just yet. A lot of men in that situation would try to escalate things- and push for intimacy when things start getting hot and steamy.
Now I think your issue of quick ejaculation had to do with the level of excitement that you had. And since you mentioned that you generally last long in bed, I think some breathing and kegel exercises is all you need to do here. Try to focus on your breathing and bring your mind into a state of calm and relaxation. And when you're doing Kegel exercises you're strengthening your PC/pelvic floor muscles which can help control the timing of your ejaculation. If you need more information on kegeling, feel free to send me a message.
But I think you're ok. Just relax and enjoy your time with the girl you're with.
Best wishes in your relationship!
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