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*nonomouslover
writes:Hey, I'm a virgin and my boyfriend isn't and i know that it will hurt my 1st time but i want it to be special i dont want him to remember it as me just laying there doing nothing! I want to give him a lot of pleasure! and why do guys say virgins are better? do i need to use a condom my 1st time? how do i set the mood and everything? please answer my questions!
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (28 July 2010):
sex for the first time will hurt unless you have already broken you hymen naturally or by foreplay (do not intentionally go and break it now)
sex with a virgin in better because you are tighter but you must must must make sure you relax because if you are tense then it will hurt more.
My ex made my first time special by simply lighting a few candels around the bedroom, putting our song on (very romantic song) and then being very gentle with me and very romantic. little things like slowly kissing my neck and being slow.
you could arrange a whole evening to build up to it, go for a romantic dinner for two then back home for the candels and soft music.
take this seriously as this is your first time and you want it to be special.
KC's answer doesn't actually seem to answer your questions and seems more crude than anything else.
I wish you all the best in this next chapter of your relatioship. just make sure your careful and that you know you are doing it with the right man
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reader, *KC* +, writes (28 July 2010):
 guys like virgins because they r tight!! i heard that straight from a guy himself. and ii agree with monksdabomb it doesnt always have to hurt. i myself havent had sex yet either and was like this as well with a guy i was dating and wondering all the same stuff but make sure you are 100% ready. the guy i was going to have sex with turned out to be a player so i didnt and i felt so much better knowing that i didnt have intercourse with him. and if you havent given a blow job or hand job before or find it repulsive read up in it and tell him what your feelings are about it and tell him you are willing or not willing to do it... same with if he wants to eat you out or finger you.... all of these things can give both of you pleasure. and USE A CONDOM!!!!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 Please read up on your sexuality. Yes you need to use a condom. And guys says virgins are better because way too many man struggle with retroactive jealousy (they can't deal with their girlfriend having had sexual partners before them), and virgins are tighter. This however is just a saying, don't put too much emphasis on the "virgins are better" phrase. Non-virgin girls are great, but in many cultures or social codexes, a man likes to brag about how many virgins he has had. It can give status.
If you want to give your boyfriend a lot of pleasure I suggest you don't give up your virginity just yet, but instead practice on doing handjobs and blowjobs, kissing, and touching. Getting to know your man on an intimate level, being naked together without having intercourse.
And, rest assured, any time having sex with a woman you love is a great pleasure for a man. Virgin or not. So don't worry so much about pleasing him. He will be pleased. Just tell him you want to give him pleasure and he can show you what he likes. Then you show him what you like so he can return the favour. In sex it is important that both give and take equally.
As with all things, good sex takes practice. But yes, do use a condom. You are not immune to pregnancy or diseases just because you are a virgin. Read up on sex more, I don't think you are ready for sex yet when you don't even know if you need a condom or not. A good preparation will make things a lot smoother.
Also make sure your boyfriend has been tested.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (28 July 2010):
 It doesn't always hurt the first time - mine didn't. The key for it to not hurt for you is lots of foreplay so that you're nice and wet down there, so it's easier for him to get it in. No, or little, foreplay, and it's gonna hurt!!
My guess why virgins are better is cause they're very tight and feel good? I don't know, lol.
And DEFINITELY use a condom!!!!!!!!!
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