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writes:Me and my ex-boyfriend dated for 4.5 years. We had a bumpy relationship in the beginning years but it eventually smoothed out though there were still arguments occurring often. But we both were madly in love with each other. He did so much for me and we always reminded each other the intense love we had for one another. But my past always prevented me from giving him all the love and appreciation he deserved. Our past has a history where he was confused about his feelings for me. I was always worried that he might become confused and lose feelings for me again one day therefore I constantly broke up with him. But the breakups never lasted long. I know I was wrong for repeatedly breaking up but my fear always took control of me and got the best of me. We are now going through another break up but this is like nothing thats ever happened before. He refuses to talk to me or see me. I desperately begged him to give me another chance and did everything that could possibly push him away. He just doesn't want to come back because he believes our relationship will just keep going through the same pattern over and over again. I know he loves me but he has treated me horribly since the breakup to push me away. But I have too much history with him to just give up and move on. I know a lot of people think that I should move on since he's treated me so bad since the breakup and has been confused about me in the past but majority of our relationship has been great and something worth fighting for. I love this man with all my heart and I want to work this out and change my habits and allow the relationship to grow and become as beautiful as it once was. How can I do this when he sees no hope or doesn't have any sort of want?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 He is all dried out with you by the sounds of it. Unfortunately he probably does not think it will be different this time and he has had enough of all the breakups. Maybe now nothing you can say or do will convince him of this. you may mean well, are y ou saying all the same things to him as before when you got back together. What would be different this time. Everyone has their shut off point and he's probably reached it. If he has any feelings for you, give him space to think about it.
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