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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, i've been with a girl for over 15 months and recently we split up. I used to pratically live over there and seen her almost every day for 15 months. During this time I grew a mass of feelings for her, we even nearly had a child.Due to me recently being unemployed we've not had alot of new unique things to do, it was kind of like a routine and things between us got a bit dry. She started texting new guys etc. and I didn't like it but I can, to some perspective see why she's done this. We argue a little but not that much, yet when we argue it always seems to be her who wants to argue with me.We've not been together for a week now, yet I still see her as a "Friend". During this time i've done things for her such as fix her tv etc. and when I do something like her she seems to appreciate what i've done for about a second then forget it ever happened. At times she says she loves me, we've kissed, even had sex yet at other times she seems off me, even speaking to other guys etc. while i'm still in the house.I'd do anything to be happy with this girl, for me it seems so easy to make it right, yet for her I think she's still confused and it's hard to co-operate with her. My question is, how can I make her appreciate me and love me again? I mean it can't all of just disappeared i'm sure, after everything that's happened. The signs are still there when she appreciates something I do, yet I want her to appreciate me like she once did.Buying her a gift etc. would be mighty hard for a few weeks until I get some money. So i'm asking how can I make her want to see me and how can I make her feel loved yet still give her the space she needs? I don't want to walk away and not see her again, even wait a week or two as I feel that if I walk away and give her too much space she wont grow her feelings for me.So basically, in the time I see her, how can I make her feel like a princess, appreciate me as much as she used too, love me again without a wallet for a few weeks? And just exactly how much space should I give her? Thanks.
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 The problem is, she doesn't love you without your wallet, so making her do thatis impossible.
You need to get some respect for youself and move on with your life. Don't be at her beck and call to fix stuff. Let her miss you. She'll come running back if she thinks she's lost you, but I just hope you're strong enough to tell her to take a flying leap.
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