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writes:Hi, I'm 17 and I started college 3 months ago. I thought I would make friends on the 1st few days but I didn't. I still haven't really made friends. I just sit with a few people on my table but I don't really know them cos I can't talk in big groups.I have 5 people on my table and I find it hard to speak in front of them all so I haven't made friends with them and they are all chatting away but I don't know what to say! I'm just the quiet one and now I think to myself I can't suddenly start talking loads cos they will all be thinking oh my god she's actually talking!I made friends by getting to know a person just on their own without anyone else around, then I'm really chatty and you can't shut me up lol! I just can't talk to a big group of people :( and I'm so depressed at the moment cos I feel like everyone in my college class has made freinds except me! please tell me how I could make friends :( :(
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reader, Kronix +, writes (31 October 2008):
Omg! This is a bit freaky.. Theres a huge similarity between us. I'd like to start off by saying, im 17, im male, and I know how you feel. I have the same problem when it comes to confidence, I can't talk in front of groups of people for shit, it's anxiety, e.g. when you do a presentation, you freeze and can't get your words out, and start shaking? Well, I can help you, I'm quite good when it comes to making friends, it's really easy lol.. Just act confident, tell yourself that you are really confident, and talk to them like they are really good friends, it's not hard, just try to show an interest in what they are saying, join in on activities.. Just chat to them one by one if it makes it easier, pick the leader of the table to talk to, and just start a subject you think he/she will know and can talk about.. E.g. Do you like the course?" and then say how you feel about the course, wether you find it hard or easy or ok, if your enjoying it, then listen to what they have to say.. Trust me your be fine if you just get in there and talk. Ask yourself.. Whats the worst that can happen? What are they likely to reply with? It's all good, just make sure you enjoy yourself it will be easier for you to get into the conversation rather than worrying about what your doing or if your saying things to keep interest. Anyway im quite interested in getting to know you we share alot of similaritys lol.. My emails [email address blocked].. Add me if you fancy a chat.. Anyway hope my info helps.. Remember.. Never take life too seriously. Your here to enjoy yourself.
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reader, muffy  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 its easy to make friends.its actually not that hard to talk in a big group.listen to what they are saying and go with it.dont talk a lot but just talk as much as they are.youll eventually catch on.ok.
i hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): unfortunately the answer is simple, you gotta talk to people! Its gonna be hard no ones denying that but you've got to do something about it. Think about it if you cant talk around people how are you going to manage your interview for uni? or a job interview? Yep its going to be difficult but there a things a thousand times harder that you may have to face one day.
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