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writes:ok i posted a lot of things on here actually..im having trouble getting over what happened i explained it in detail in one of my other writings.. long story short i got left for some ghetto girl on homecoming nite for a guy i committed to and gave everything to for 9 months.... i see him and that girl everyday at school.. every time i see his arm around her and them flirting i almost bust out in tears.. many guys have been hitting on me but i just feel my heart is shut and i dont wanna open it again and he is all i can think about.. he tried to get back with me rite after it happened but i refused and left him since then we have not talked its been about 3-4 weeks.. he hasn't tried to contact me and i know him and that girl are not dating... i miss him terribly and i just want to talk to him.. i dont want him back at all.. actually i just want peace and be able to still be somewhat friends because he was my best friend..What do I do? How do I let him know I dont want to get in a relationship but I've moved on and being friends will be ok? That I've accepted our seperation?
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reader, juliaash123 +, writes (26 October 2009):
juliaash123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni understand everything that your saying... but what if im too scared to open up to anyone else again? ive been screwed over so many times by so many guys and im tired.. he just topped it off. especially because i had very strong feelings for him.. i don't think theres someone's else's love that i can let in.. what i mean is i don't think theres anyone who has any love to give in the first place.. i found this world is full of cruel and selfish people i feel im the only stupid one twirling round and round.. with kindness.. and so much love to give. but no one worth giving it to. and by the way i know the relationship will not work but sometimes i just miss the talking and only the talking.. someone i could just tell anything to.. not so much being with him
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (26 October 2009):
I dont think you have accpeted the seperation. When your done with someone, you don't generally want to hang out with them. When one person does, it's something called "unrequited love" thats means, unreturned love. You dont want him back but you dont like the feeling of heartbreak that goes with it. Your conflicted. You just have to accept that this relationship will not work. The "friendship" you want is an attempt to bargain with the truth. You want him near but not too close. Thats not the way it works. You need to end this relationship and move on. It's holding you back from other relationships and thats not good at your age. Let go, and let someone elses love in. You'll find wonce you do, the other persons love wasn't all that special after all.
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