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writes:Im almost 17 my boyfriend is 19 and i've been with him almost 6 months. We get on really well and hardly ever argue. However recently he has been going away alot to manchester with a few guy mates and meeting girls that he met on holiday in ibiza. I wanna be able to trust him but for some reason i cant. I cant go with him as im not old enough to get into clubs. He trusts me 100% when im the one that has cheated in the past, whereas he never has. He knows i worry when he goes and he knows i dont trust him 100%.how can i learn to trust him more. Its started to affect our relationship.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (30 November 2008):
hiyah, yeah it will affect what you have and in time it will wruin it. if theres no trust there isnt a relationship. you need to build it back up but at the same time he needs to earn it. talk to him telling him how you get that he has a life besides you and you think its good hes having fun but sometimes you feel left out and due to your own past it makes you worry that what youve done could affect what he does when hes out (if you get that!) he should apreciate our honesty but at the same time dont sound like you dont want him to go out as you dont trust him as its likely to push him further away.you feel insecure about the girls he met on holiday but if he knows your insecure he wont push you too far (hopefully) and if he really loves you (given your past id say he really did) then he wouldnt hurt you. i know its hard but dont judge what you once did on what he could do. he could be plain innocent with a few mates you know? although it never seems that way. dont jump to conclusions or without wanting to youll end it. youve been through a lot, tackle this one by talking to him and see where you go.hope all goes well best of luck hun xxx
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