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*hitepulse
writes:I met this guy at my old workplace who I REALLY like. I can't stop thinking about him.The only problem is that I don't know if he's gay or bisexual, or even if he's interested in me. I've summed up what's been happening below:We first met when I was talking to my ex-manageress about moving to France after I've finished university, and she mentioned that this guy used to live there. She bought him over and we got chatting and he said to me 'I'd be happy to teach you French. Perhaps over a coffee sometime?'We met for this coffee and we got on incredibly well. I felt a sort of spark between us, he was so nice and apologised that he hadn't typed anything up or knew what I wanted to learn so he could help me further. When our little meeting was over he asked if he could take my number to meet again and he'd text me when he was free. He didn't text me, but I thought there could be an all manner of reasons why he didn't.I saw him again last night and he didn't text because he was working late and when he got home he crashed out, but he managed to approve my Facebook request :s we had a quick chat over the bar and he gave me a close, tight handshake when I left, and said goodnight to me in French, which I thought was very sweet.I'd desperately love to know your opinions!How do I know if he likes me?How do I know if he's gay or bisexual?How do I make it clear that I like him without making it incredibly blatant and/or looking like a stalker?Thank you in advance!
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reader, whitepulse +, writes (23 May 2008):
whitepulse is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you! :]
no he's Irish, he lived in Paris for eight months, he's trilingual, can speak English, French and Spanish fluently.
But I do like those ideas, so thank you.
I was thinking of maybe asking a colleague of his to "snoop around" subtly and find out if he's gay for me. Do you think that would be worth a shot.
Your advice is indispensable. Thank you again!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 May 2008):
Well does he know you are gay? If he does and he's still getting this close to you it means he's either an Incredibly secure straight guy, or bi or gay. You could ask him if he had a girlfriend - that one tends to work.
Let him know you are gay, and then keep smiling, keep the spark, and see if he responds to it. If he's straight and you start giving him the eye then he'll most likely back off and start talking about girls.
If not then just ask him if you can take him out for dinner, as a thank you for his french lessons if nothing else. If you can't tell by the end of the evening in a romantic restaurant then hopefully you'll have got the courage up to just ask him.
Oh and the not texting vs facebook thing... I'm in bed now and typing away on my laptop which is easy, but if there was a guy I liked, I would not choose this moment to send a text as I wouldn't be able to keep a cool conversation going.
Good Luck!! xx
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