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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am going away tomorrow to a music festival with my boyfriend and some of his mates. One of them is a girl and I know that my boyfriend fancies her. She's gorgeous, funny, slim and cool, and every bloke I know that knows her fancies her, a few have even gone so far as to say they're in love with her, she's that perfect. My boyfriend knew her long before he knew me and it is very obvious he fancies her, especially as he seems to go out of his way to try and prove he doesn't fancy her even though I've never mentioned to him or anyone else that i am suspicious of this. (He doesn't say anything directly but just things like not making conversation with her even though he used to lots before we got together, and telling me that she's moody even though she isn't, and deliberately not putting her phone number in his new phone but putting everyone else's in.) This makes it lots worse, if he just acted normally it would be fine.Since I've know she was going to the festival with us I've been dreading going just because I know I'll spend the whole weekend being jealous and miserable, even though I love the bands playing and have been looking forward to it since last year's one. I do hide my jealousy though as I know it will only make me look bad and I get on with her fine, I just really don't want my weekend to be ruined by feeling jealous of her.She has a boyfriend and I know my boyfriend wouldn't cheat on me and she wouldn't do anything like that either so I don't have any worries in that respect. She is a nice girl and I get on with her so I'd love to be able to have a good weekend without trying to avoid her or feeling jealous of my boyfriend fancying her.Does anyone have any tips on how I can keep the jealousy at bay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): i've been in many similar situations to this. and i can be a pretty jealous person as bad as that sounds. but the best way to deal with this is to get it off your chest and tell your boyfriend you're jealous. i know its REALLY hard to do but honestly it is the best thing. he can give you reasons as to why he acts so weird and give you reassurance that there's no spark between them. TRUST ME, this will fix things up real good and you wont have to worry any more (as long as you and your boy have good communication). and if you might feel okay after you've talked to him about it, then feel jealous like a month later again. just keep bringing it up and it'll eventually sink in that every things okay :)
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