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writes:Essentially my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month, and we're both in love. I don't expect people to believe you can be in love at 14, and that its probably infatuation but whatever it is makes me happy. We haven't told our parents- I'm an only daughter who lives with only my mum. I know she would freak out. The thing is we were caught in the back of my mums car by her- well, we're not sure. We dont whether she saw or not. My boyfriend and I are sneaking about and I feel bad about my mum, but there is no way I'm ending it- not yet. How do I keep our relationship strong and not tell my mother? When she's asked I told her hes one of my best friends, which is true. I trust him with my life. What can I do?
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reader, wolfred bane  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 i feel you SHOULD tell, 'cause it's the right, thing to do., however, since where the same age i can understand how you feel. i agree with bernand, though. good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 April 2011):
Your mother wasn't born yesterday, she knows that you're going behind her back with your boyfriend.
Instead, why don't you come clean about your relationship? It's exhausting sneaking around, and soon enough you will get sloppy then she will catch you. You'll probably get grounded till your 30. Be mature here, tell her the truth and see how she reacts. If she doesn't want you to see this boy ever again until you're allowed to date at 16..then it's her house, her rules.
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reader, unknownreader +, writes (13 April 2011):
 You should always be honest! Maybe it's best to sit down with your mum and have a chat. At the age of 14 your old enough to choose on your own if you have a boyfriend or not. And in fact who they are. If you explain to your mum just how much you like this boy she will understand. And also by telling your mum about him, and being truthful, she is going to respect you more for that too. If you explain to your mum, that you will always be truthful with her and you will always tell her of what is going on then she will know that if you have any problems you will not be afraid to go to her. For example, at the age of 14 i had my first serious boyfriend. I have always told my mum everything, so if anything happened she wouldn't be doubly shocked. With this my mum trusted me completely and i trusted her too. It also brings you closer, and makes your bond stronger. Your mum is your life line. Use it. She is the one you will always depend on. The truth is always the best.:)
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