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age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidLong story short, got dumped from a 3 years abusive relationship. My self esteem is record low and im still thinking about ways to get my ex-bf back, haven't acted on it though.I am trying really hard to move on and not think about him at all, but working till now.I am an introvert, don't have much friends and my sister is really close to me and she is my best friend right now, who is my support system.Question is, how do i stop thinking about him, how can i improve my self esteem and stop looking for someone to validate me. I don't think i ever had a good self esteem to begin with even from childhood, i always wanted and looked for someone to validate me and give purpose for my life and i never really liked to be me, i always wanted to be someone else. I want to like me, how do i do that.Please help me
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reader, llifton +, writes (17 May 2013):
 i think the best advice i can give to you over the internet would be, if at all possible, to look into seeing a professional counselor. a lot of people are co-dependent and seek validation through their significant others. a counselor will be able to work with you through your dependency problems and hopefully straighten everything out in the long run.
most insurance policies these days include mental health counseling in their plans. you should look into it. don't feel alone. this is very common.
good luck.
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