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writes:I just need you all to read dis and help me wit a reasonable solution. I am a young pretty girl in my twenties,bt i have never had a stable and lasting relationsip ever since i started dating. Am always getting piss off easily and always end a relationship on my own. I was dating a guy early dis year which i tot it wil lead to marriage,bt d communication aspect broke it up bcause d guy was far frm me as i changed location. Bt nw av been chatin wit a guy av neva met b4 bt came frm my state,bt different local govt. Am in love wit him. Though he ask me out at first bt i refuse. Bt we bth kip on callin each oda up til date and dat makes d love i av 4 him to increase. D question now is hw can i make him to ask me out again? And when he did,how can i make d relationship to lead to marriage. Bcus i av a bad attitude of quittin a guy easily. Pls and pls frnds dnt read witout givin me ur own view or word of advice. Tnx. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): your welcome.
it just so happen that i can relate to your concern.
thank u too
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reader, LizBetty +, writes (28 July 2013):
LizBetty is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow high maintenance. I must confess u are really wondaful. Tnx 4 ur time spent i do appreciate.
@Anonymous u are grt. Tnx also 4 ur time spent i appreciate ur advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): How to make it work?
Honestly, I'm not the best person to answer your question.
I am also like you, I'm a quitter when it comes to men.
Most of my relationships lasted because my ex bf's are the one who wants to stay with me.
I am also a queen of pride myself.
I sincerely hate myself from being so prideful.
but i just can't help myself.
But every queen will learned how to step down too.
I did. Once. Not so long ago, I met that man who made me chew my so called pride.
I did everything i can to make our relationship work.
My goodness, I am not sweet, but with him, I am the sweetest person in the world. I am not a forgiver but with him, every mistake doesn't count. In short I really acted like a love sick puppy with him.
But before you jump into conclusion, let me tell you a secret. I maybe acted like a stupid love sick puppy with him but I put him to the test first.
He passed. Actually it was more than I expected. So he passed with flying colors always. what test?
I'm a queen of pride. Never did I experienced to call him or text him first. It was always him.
Never i experienced with him waiting for him.
Not even once. During the test.
He showered me with too much attention, love and affection.
Gifts, all over. You can just imagine.
After almost 2 months, boom. He captured my heart.
Then That's the time I know his worth it. Maybe his the one. I should work for it. That's the time I became Sweet, thoughtful, considerate, patient and I think i was the best gf he ever had too.
I gave up everything for him. It lasted for 2 years and a half. but still his not meant for me. he fell for someone else. I thought i did everything I can.
I learned that love is like a bet.
You may win or lose. There's really no guarantee.
Sad but true. Its something you cannot insure.
There's really no recipe for a perfect relationship or how to make it work thing for me.
You can try the things i tried. But its not a guarantee that it will lasts.
But your not me, Maybe it will work for you.
My fate is not your fate.
But thank you for asking me, it made me realized that can't be like a remote control at all times.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): How to make it work?
Honestly, I'm not the best person to answer your question.
I am also like you, I'm a quitter when it comes to men.
Most of my relationships lasted because my ex bf's are the one who wants to stay with me.
I am also a queen of pride myself.
I sincerely hate myself from being so prideful.
but i just can't help myself.
But every queen will learned how to step down too.
I did. Once. Not so long ago, I met that man who made me chew my so called pride.
I did everything i can to make our relationship work.
My goodness, I am not sweet, but with him, I am the sweetest person in the world. I am not a forgiver but with him, every mistake doesn't count. In short I really acted like a love sick puppy with him.
But before you jump into conclusion, let me tell you a secret. I maybe acted like a stupid love sick puppy with him but I put him to the test first.
He passed. Actually it was more than I expected. So he passed with flying colors always. what test?
I'm a queen of pride. Never did I experienced to call him or text him first. It was always him.
Never i experienced with him waiting for him.
Not even once. During the test.
He showered me with too much attention, love and affection.
Gifts, all over. You can just imagine.
After almost 2 months, boom. He captured my heart.
Then That's the time I know his worth it. Maybe his the one. I should work for it. That's the time I became Sweet, thoughtful, considerate, patient and I think i was the best gf he ever had too.
I gave up everything for him. It lasted for 2 years and a half. but st
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2013): You're post was a little hard to read but I think I got the gist of it!First off do not let someone tell you who you are and aren't in love with, if you know how you feel be confident in that. When you feel like marriage is the right thing then go ahead. people always want to do things according to time but sometimes it okay to do thing according to the heart. my grandparents got married within 2 months of dating and they are still together, and happy after 53 years! But I do believe that you should be reasonable, marriage is a serious thing and I do agree that you should take things slow. Your first priority should be getting together, no so much marriage. If you want him to ask you out, give him subtle hints you know.. Say something like "I never should of said no when you asked me out". things of that nature. I have the same problem with being with a guy and just giving up but my problem is that I lose interest or that I find something better. Also I was with this guy who I really like but I broke up with him for absolutely no reason, some days I use to miss him. My advice to you would be that if you love this guy then put your all into the relationship. If you really want him in your life forever and love this guy then you wouldn't want to give up, you'd want to work extra hard to keep things going, it wouldn't be so easy to give up on. If its worth it, then you will hold on to it. You'll find that one person, hopefully its him!! I found mine, and I've known him for a while, we have been best friends for 4 years and I've always loved him, now we are talking and I couldn't be happier and more in love and I do not want to give this up for anything in the world!Love can easily be mistake for infatuation, its something new so you have this feeling like he's perfect and you want him forever, but sometimes it takes a while before you really get to know a person ( and you may not like what you see after a while. remember that. I do believe you can fall in love with someone without meeting them, I have before but I found something that's been there all along...my best friend.Good Luck and I hope things work out for you !
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reader, LizBetty +, writes (28 July 2013):
LizBetty is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHigh maintainace i really see and kn0w that you know what I am feeling right now from your respond. But please can you advice me more on how i can make it work or just a little clue on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2013): Most pretty girls are not afraid to let go of a relationship because they know that there would be next in line after a couple of weeks.
Which is so true.
However, we don't meet everyday someone we have a real connection. someone we really care for.
I totally understand what your going through.
There would be stupid times where we reject someone we really like. then we regret what we've done afterwards.
How to stop?
No one can stop it but just you.
You need to swallow your pride.
Have a little understanding, not always ME attitude.
Think of the things that upsets you.
Is it reasonable? Or just being childish?
You have to think.
If you really like him, then make it work.
Only you can do it. The power is in your hands.
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