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writes: How can I help my sister get over him?Hi, this isn't really related to me, but to my sister. She is devastated because last night, her ex broke up with her. He is by no means her first ex... but her previous relationships ended either in mutual break ups or because she ended them.She was with him for like a year and a half, he was like 10 years older than she is (she's older than me by the way), but I had never seen her so in love and devoted to someone... Sadly, out of this year and a half, I'd say like 8 months were long distance. She was constantly sad because she missed him, and she was constantly asking him when was he coming back. Just this past weekend she went to visit him, and from what she told me, he was very sweet and everything seemed normal, although he avoided talking about when he was coming back. Last night they talked for like 2 hours on the phone, and he broke up with her, apparently because he doesn't want to keep hurting her with the uncertainty. She was very hurt, because she told him she rather be in a LDR with him that not having him at all. That she loves him so much... yet he didn't tell her much, she says he's the type of guy to hide his emotions, but was nevertheless hurt about his distance.Anyway... my parents don't know about it yet. Only I know. It breaks my heart seeing her like this, and last night we cried together because I can't stand thinking about the pain she's feeling. What can I do? I've never broken up with anyone before (I'm still with my first boyfriend), so I don't know how to get over someone you desperately love.How can I help her? I'm desperate, I can't stand seeing her like this! I wish he'd come to his senses and take her back, even though I don't like him (neither do my parents), but she genuinely loves him a lot, I just want her to be happy. To make things worse, they talked today, and he said he doesn't want to continue their relationship, but that he still wants to talk to her and that he doesn't want to lose her. What for? He's like 1000 miles away. It doesn't seem like he's coming back any time soon either...What can I do to help her? :(
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (20 October 2009):
 Aw bless her, that must be horrible.. I think on your part, the only thing that you can do is be there for her, support her, be the shoulder she can cry on and talk to her and hug her when she needs it. With a little bit of love and support from her family the healing process will go alot quicker :)
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