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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This may be a little lengthy but I need you to understand the whole situation.I have a friend who has always been slightly low on self-confidence. We have been close friends for a long time and I love her dearly. About 7 months ago, her mom passed away. She and her mom were very very close and she regarded her mom as her best friend. Since this happened, her self-esteem has dramatically declined. She has been depressed and she doesn't get along with her father. She feels alone in the world and She has never really had any romantic relationships to speak of. She has always longed for someone who would be there for her.On the other hand, an ex-boyfriend, I broke up with him and even though he still "loved" me, we still consider each other a best friend. He has always been known as someone who cannot hold down a relationship although he is a great friend. Just last year, he tried to date my friend with the low self-esteem but for the most part, he was just playing with her emotions. He said that he was single, so was she and they should just be friends with benefits. She, of course, loved to have the attention for the first time in a long time. She said it was okay that he didn't really like her but i could tell that she was so very hurt every time that he would decide to take the attention away.Now, since she has suffered this great loss, as I said, she has become more doubting of her self worth as a person and she worries me greatly because she is depressed much of the time. My guy friend, has once again decided to start flirting with her...I don't know how to verbalize how upset I am with him. She doesn't need this in her life and he keeps telling her that he is falling for her this time, but just last week he told me that he doesn't like her as anything more than a friend (he has always confided in me when it comes to girls that he likes, he asks my advice and such).What Should I do? She has told me many times that since she has no self-respect she won't stand up for herself when she needs to and I am welcome to step in. But I almost feel out of place, yet at the same time I can't stand by and let him play with her emotions again...Dear Aunts please give me some advice. How can I find out if he really likes her this time or if he simply is playing with her feelings again? What should I do? (if he is, I may have to run him over with my car or something, just kidding, but I am furious with him)!!
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