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writes:Hi y'all! I have poted here numerous times regarding me leaving an abusive relationship!I am dating a really amazing guy now that I met at law school. He is on a trip with his firm in NY, and I will be facing my abuser in court tomorrow.Problem is that my bf is uper worried because my ex is pretty much a sociopath. While we were dating he had crazy thoughts of me cheating, wouldnt let me use my phone, kicked things around me...utterly insane. Anyway, my guy is really worried. He has been very upportive and wonderful, but he is worried about me. I don't really care about my ex any more, and I am happy as long as he is away from me. :) but my bf i worried and feels guilty for not being there with me tomorrow.How can I help my bf not feel guilty? He offered cancelling his trip, but that would be really unfair to him. I want to assure him that I will be okay. He keeps feeling guilty for not coming with me and keeps apologizing.He says he feels like a bad boyfriend, but I really do not think he is. I feel I was right in rejecting his offer to cancel his trip as it i really important to him. But I dont want him to stress out because of me.I think because I had such a bad relationship with a sh**ty ex, my bf worries more than normal. I want him to be relaxed. So how cna I make my bf feel less guilty? How can I how him I am perfectly okay and that my ex is insignificant?Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much!It actually went really well :) My ex was his usual delusional self. He was acting really creepy ( laughing in a creepy and weird while in court), and I thought to myself. How did I ever get involved with that guy? (eww)Anyway, My BF was really sweet! I went out for drinks to celebrate being done with this and my bf had gotten me flowers as surprise, he also feels much better now that this is behind us and we can focus on Xmas plans!Thanks for your support guys and for your awesome advice :) I did like you said and he calmed down a bit, he knows how my ex can get during court so I understand his worry. My bf encourages me to keep going to counseling - and you are right! He truly is a keeper :D
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2013):
 All you need to do is be in touch with him the day of the court hearing.
you text that morning with "GM I'm fine, thinking of you and I'll be FINE don't worry"
then when you get to the court house you text "going into court now have to turn off the phone I'm fine will call you when I'm done"
then go into court with your head high.... resolve the issues and then when you are done and away from the courthouse you call your guy and say "I'm fine it's over and I'm glad you were emotionally supporting me"
Sounds like you are fine and your new fella is a keeper.
good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 December 2013):
 After today the problem is solved. Relax.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 December 2013):
I'm sure he's fine, he's just trying to be a nice, supportive boyfriend.
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