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writes:last night i went out with a friend i havent seen in 5 months for a drink and my bf didnt stop texting me when i didnt reply back he would text me the same text until i replied and at 10 he sent one that said why i wasnt home yet he then phoned me and asked to speak to my friend who said i was ok and that we going home after our drink and my bf threatened my friend, then when i got back on the phone he was telling me to go home and since my night was ruined i went home. i dont want to leave my bf as this is the first time its happened, he said that he has trust issues with the people i hang out with, saying he thinks they're gonna rape me, how can i help him change so i can enjoy a night out without him ruining it for me, by the way he lives 200 miles away so him joining me is not possible
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (9 September 2007):
 Next time you plan to meet a friend for a drink, especially a male friend, you should invite your b/f to come along. Then he won't have to worry and wonder what you're really up to. Once he knows them and feels more comfortable about them, he probably won't mind you going with them once in awhile. Good luck.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 September 2007):
Well, he shouldn't have to join you all the time. He could get to know them at some point, and then his trust for them may come. But that is ridiculous. He should know, you have a life outside of him, especially being 200 miles away. Doesn't he have a life outside of you?
Go out with your friends. If this starts, turn the phone off and deal with him later. Make him realize that this kind of behavior will push you away from him. You have a right to have friends and hang out with them. What gave him this kind of a ridiculous idea that your friends are really out to rape you? Sounds like he's got some real issues beyond trust if he seriously thinks this without some hard proof. I mean, is this what he thinks friends do? Is he out to rape his friends? Basically, you have to make him realize how ridiculous he sounds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): You need to get a boyfriend where you live because you can't be with him a lot, but he doesn't want you hanging out with people either. So you need to make a decision because it's not going to work out this way.
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