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writes: Hey guys/girls well anyways I'm having a problem with my girlfriends parents. First of all I'd like to state that we're both 17 and seniors so we're getting ready to move up in the world.Our problem is that her parents don't like me for some sort of reason. When we first went out I made the mistake of calling to much but yah she dumped me and i stopped calling. After that we went back out and i hardly ever called her.Then one day i found out she had an arguement with her parents about being my girlfriend. Her step-dad isn't the nicest guy in the world and expects me to agree with everything he says since according to him he's an adult and I'm a kid but yet again he can't seem to understand that we're all different and we have our own opinions.Well anyways they think that because I'm going into the military that I'm going to become an abusive and drunken guy who cheats on her. Oh and for the record her mom did go through that so i understand where she is coming from.I just need advice on how to handle this I've thought about talking to her parents but she says I shouldn't talk to them and I'm clueless about how to help her out because I feel worthless just hearing about all the crap she goes through.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (28 December 2005):
Her parents are being very narrow minded, man I hate people like that! They obviously don't like people who are in the military and have this negative view of them, yet you should remind them that not all stereotypes are true, and for each stereotype there is, there is always atleast on person who doesnt fit it! Perhaps get your gf to say smething to them about what stereotype they could be, but arent then relate it back to you, as I think thats a very good point.
In the end, you guys are almost 18 and they can't control waht you do. Hopefully in time they will come around.
Also do you think perhaps they just think there daughter is to young to date, maybe thats the real issue? Maybe its not you, its just all boys!
I think what you and your gf need to do here is to get your parents to sit down and talk to hers, they are more likely to trust other adults. Also, remind them that they have brought there daughter up to be a good judge of character and that she is strong and so for, god forbid she did get hurt, she can deal with it, she is strong. Thhey can't protect her from everything in the world veen though they would like to.
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reader, smileybabe +, writes (27 December 2005):
well if i was you what makes my parents accept the guys in my life is that if they sit down and are honest with them and are willing to talk then they feel like they have respect. you sound like a good person and you care about you gf so if i was you i would simply try to be friends with her dad and prove to him that you will take care of his daghter and care about her for her and not for sex. It is going to be hard but with a little extra effort you and him may become the best of friends. I hope this helps you :)
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