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writes:i've never given a guy a bj before. I want to know how I can go about taking initiative and doing it smoothly without making it into an awkward situation.also do guys find virgins a total turn off? Reply to this Question
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reader, vickysmr  +, writes (14 December 2010):
I’ll giveyou four simple tips that will improve your skills, use them wisely and you’ll explode from the effects.
Tip #1
Choose a good position. Positioning is everything. A bad position can ruine the whole thing not only for him, but you as well.
Tip #2
Change the way you view blow jobs. Stop making a chore out of it. You’re not supposed to do it to please him, but to please yourself. Once YOU start getting satisfaction from giving HIM a blow job – the blow job itself will be at least twice as good.
Tip #3
Follow your emotions. Tap into the flow and just let go, you have to suck with passion and love, as if it was a dance. That’s why it’s even nicer to receive head when there’s some nice, chilling jazz music in the background, helping you to relax and forget about a hard day. Stop searching for the “xzy special technique” – there is no magic pill with blow jobs. You can have the best techniques on the planet – but that ain’t worth anything if you can’t apply the basics – and the basics are not physical but mentol. Blow jobs are a skull game, a game of emotion, power and desire.
Tip #4
Your mouth is not just for sucking – so don’t be afraid to do some talking. Play with his emotions, guide them. Once you have his shaft in your mouth, you are in complete control, his manhood depends on you. There is always the possibility that you might just snap and bite his shaft of – that’s where all the excitement comes from. Don’t be afraid to have a tighter grip and a few firm bites here and there can only help you out in the long run. If you need some advanced tips, check out http://www.jacksblowjoblessons.com/
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 December 2008):
 Our South African friend "Smiles" provided excellent advice for a "smooth" blow job, although you may also get some valuable advice by researching the archives. Just enter the term in the search field. She also mentions one of my personal favorite positions, which is not only good for deep-throat, but can also be very effective for regular release if swallowing. I'm not sure that it should be attempted by a first timer, however. My recommendation would be for the man to be prone or seated
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Use lots of saliva, moisture is key. A dry mouth is not very good. Dont worry if some spit runs down your chin or something, its all part of the fun. Just under the head is the most sensitive part, try to focus there would be a good starting point, use your tounge. The ultimate blowjob is the deep throat. You probably cant do this straight away as most girls never get the hang of it due to the gag reflex. But your guy will appreciate some effort in taking it as deep as you can. Try going down on it as far as you can until its pushing into your tonsils, its hot! Dont be afraid to gag or choke on it a little bit, he will love it.Finally, when he blows into your mouth, try to swallow it all down, its a real turn on if the girl swallows the load. good luck
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reader, gazs  +, writes (12 December 2008):
hi thiz is a guy replying. no. guys don't find virgins a turn off. well, in my own experience. no, the more decent guys will try too make it more easy for you with less effort so you enjoy it as much as he does. to give a more satisfying blow job, the main point is not to do what it says - don't blow lol. what your basically doing is doing the same motion as masturbating but with your mouth, with using the front and back of your tongue at different times. the best way is to hold it with one hand, get the rhythm of masturbating and use your mouth in the same motion while running it down your tongue. it all comes with experience, do not worry about it at all with the guy your doing it too. if he respects you enough he will be patient with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): To do a BJ smoothly you'll need to take your teeth out. Assuming you can't do that, I'm sure he would tell you if they got in the way and then it's just a matter of covering them with your lips or keeping them well out of the way. Lots of saliva helps, it lubricates the thing. Personally, i think a blow job is a vastly overrated pastime and I'd far rather stick it where it was designed to go. There's no teeth in there.
Virgins are seen as something of a challenge rather than a turn-off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008):
Dear Poster
Performing Fellatio (Oral sex on a man)
Find a comfortable position.
He should be immaculately clean.
You can begin by kissing and licking the penis; then, holding the shaft in one hand, swirl your tongue gently around the tip.
Next, explore the shaft, running your tongue around the ridge where it meets the head and vibrate it gently against the frenulum.
When you feel ready, take his penis into your mouth; do cover your teeth with your lips; take the whole head into your mouth; with your teeth well apart, move your mouth up and down, allow your partner to guide the rhythm with his hands on your head.
Maintain a steady rhythm and firm pressure.
Don’t bend the penis to far down; this can be painful
The penis should always point upwards.
Gradually increase the speed until he is ready to climax.
Then, if you do not want him to ejaculate in your mouth, withdraw and bring him to orgasm with your hand or switch to intercourse.
There are various other alternatives that you can practice when you are getting comfortable
Remember, the scrotum is also very sensitive so you can use your tongue and mouth there as well.
Hope this is of assistance to you.
Enjoy, it is much nicer then licking an ice-cream!
Deep-throating, if desired or preferred, is usually easier if the woman gets on her hands and knees, perhaps on a bed, and facing the man while he stands in front of her. This places her mouth and neck in a position that usually makes deeper penetration into her throat more comfortable for both.
Remember that he may be extremely sensitive after ejaculation. Very gently, clean his tip with your tongue if you wish, and cuddle up with him for a good night's sleep.
Hope this will be of assistance to you!
Best wishes; lots of smiles!
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