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*illarosie30
writes:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for four years now, the last few months have been hard with us falling out and seemingly making up. Most recently we fell out and decided that splitting up was the way forward. It seems that over the last 4 months he had felt undervalued in the relationship and had had enough. Wrongly, I felt that his answers were not all that consistent and in checking his emails,I found out that he had been having contact with another female. The email she sent almost amounted to a love letter, but he assures me that he has met her one, they have neither kissed nor had sex. However it is quite clear that they had the emotional attachment that we lost. Now my boyf has agreed to.end all contact with her, and I have said that I can draw a line under this. We're trying to resolve thing, having fun but the emotional attachment is do hard to work at. He tells me he loves me and wants to work at it but its not feeling right at the moment. I know that if he didn't want to be here or I didn't then we have the brains to end this....how can start to get this back x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Emotional bonds take time to form and even longer to heal if they have been broken in someway, which your has by the fact that he felt undervalued for some time and also because he had an emotional affair.
Just keep on having fun with him, enjoy each other's company and over time you will notice that its back again. Of course its not a tangible thing that you can feel but you'll know its there.
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