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anonymous
writes:I'm seeing this guy, we've been talking for about four weeks after I met him through a friend. We have met up twice in those four weeks, but I havent seen him for the last two weeks, however, we talk every single day without fail. And we talk throughout the day as we both have blackberry messenger and the conversation hardly dies.But i'm starting to get bored. Because it has legit been a month of non-stop talking.. The longest we've gone without talking is about 24hours (a day).. Which is not good as interest can easily be lost.What can I do? Should i stop talking to him as much? To be honest, it doesn't seem one-sided. We havent even agreed to meet up to go out in the last two weeks, and im starting to think its because theres no reason for us to seeing as were always talking.I somewhat feel that his interest in me has weakened and i dont want this to happen.Any suggestions as to what i can do for it to go back to normal? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Here's a question for you: do you expect that two lovers will have the same level of interest towards each other forever?
As a relationship becomes more in-tuned with each person, the usual hobbies each person shares (eg: talking, going out every weekend, etc) will wane. Not that the relationship itself has become blah. It just basically means the relationship has 'upgraded' into something that goes beyond the superficial.
Mind you, the same can be said about deteriorating relationships. Take my recent lover for example, we used to talk at least twice a day, hours on end. Sometimes, 5 to 10 hours straight. Yes, 10! Our longest was 13.5 hours!!! O_O
These days, we talk once every other day for a couple of hours, but our relationship has strengthen. When we see each other, there is already no 'necessity' to talk about each other. The action involved is a greater 'reward'. Just being together was the greater reward.
Remember: there is only so much to talk about, but to grow together, you two need to do things together. To expand your relationship, you two need to continue to live your lives and connect through that way.
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