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*atehurley14
writes:Well how should i start...im gay, there's this guy I really really really like. Im 14, he 16. He has a boyfriend but 1 day he had sex with me and cheated on him with me in the mall bathroom. Ok his boyfriend walked in on us while we were doing it. Once he saw he walked rite out. The boyfriend got pissed off at us but we lied to him and said that i got all up on him and wanted sex but that he pushed me away. Now the 2 r still goin out and blamed everything on me. Me and the dude who i had sex with still talk and he always tells me that he wants to do it again but that he'll feel bad cuz he'll be cheating, Im tryin to break the 2 up but he claims that he loves him. What should I do? I wanna tell his boyfriend what really happened but he really doesnt want anyone to know. How can I make the dude i had sex with mine?
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Glad to hear things are working out in your favor. Be very careful hon! My brother is 32, and gay, and he just discovered he has hep c. He wasnt the type to sleep around, in fact, been with the same guy for over 7 years. You are so young, please, use protection. My brother, is rediculously gorgeous, with a great job, and wicked smart, and he is bumming right now. He and his partner were considering adopting a baby, and this has kind of changed his plans. Be smart! Keep us updated;)
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reader, natehurley14 +, writes (16 July 2008):
natehurley14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Me an him still talk and remain more than friends The good thing is is that he an his bf have been having problems lately and he always tells me he loves me. Everytime we're together he holds my hand and we do sexual things. My feelings for him still havem't changed. I love him so much and i hope that soon he realizes what he really wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): I'm surprised nobody has said this. If it had been a heterosexual girl or guy, most of the post would have talked about his age.
Dude, you're 14 years old. 14! You're still a child. Why are you trying to be grown up and having sex so early? If laws applied to homosexuals, the other guy would have been sent to prison for satutuary rape. I hope at least you were wearing some protection
The advise the other aunties gave are great. If you really want to get the attention of the guy you love, make him jealous or flirt so much with him till he can't stand desiring you, but wait to have sex with him to make sure he's there for you and not for the sex. I bet your relationship with him would be much better, specially the sex since it will be someone who cares about you as much as you care about them. That feeling is incredible, to know you're really wanted for who you are.
I hope everything works out for you!
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (9 July 2008):
The aunts and uncles here dont usually give advice on how to hurt people (break up a relationship), as we all pretty much agree that it is just wrong. We try to heal people and help others in need. I understand that you have strong feelings for this guy, and because he has cheated before, he might do it again, with you. Here's the thing...He says he loves his current boyfriend. If you truly love him, you will respect that he is happy. Be there for him as a friend. Instead of breaking them up, prove to him that only you could make him happy, and be the perfect partner, and (I know this will be hard), wait it out. Eventually he will notice your efforts, and realize that he actually would be happier with you. All this applies if you "love" him, and want more than sex, however, if it is stricktly lust you are after, do a whole lotta teasing, but never deliver. Wait untill they break up to deliver the goods. Be strong, be a good person, and let their relationship be. You wouldnt appreciate some hot dude trying to break your man away from you, and karmaticlly, thats exactly what would happen if you do it to this guy. But there is nothing wrong with showing this guy what an awsome person you are and that he'd be better off with you. One last ting, what always seemed to work for me was finding a super hot guy to hang out with me, make the guy I really like a little jealous. They always come running when the oppertunity is no longer there. Good luck babe.
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reader, centralbabe5678 +, writes (9 July 2008):
 this sounds sorta familiar, im still a virgin and all but i know what its like when you want someone you cant have, the best thing to do is make him want you soo bad that he will be forced to break up with his bf. if he claims to love him then he shouldn't be cheating on him. what you need to do right now is make him want you more than his current boyfriend :)
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reader, English chick!  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Thats tradgic, i suggest...
1. Make him jealous
2. Make him notice you and lure him in
Don't blame me if you don't win him!
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