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writes:hello!Am 25 and still virgin and every time my boyfriend try to finger me i almost shout because am afraid of the pain, i really want to make love with him...but am mentally block when thought of the pain it might caused me...i felt sorry for him and feel guilty too he does understand but for how long? need your help plzzzthnxx in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, mysticfairy2 +, writes (9 August 2010):
mysticfairy2 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey guys thanks a lot for the responds ^^
@Soon103-- Thank you for your advice am gonna take it slow and see what happen next...
@WordsCards-- Guess you are right i need to get to a gynecologist first to be totally sure that it is normal all that pain.
One thing which is not clear for me is that my boyfriend want TO HAVE SEX and i wanna MAKE LOVE, and for my first time i wanna make love, its soft and romantic not wild sex :s
To reply to your question yes i do get aroused when am with my boyfriend, i want him, am wet and really wanna make love and i prefer him to rub his penis against my clito than penetrate me :(
@FluffyPie-- Yeah am very tensed when get to know he would insert his finger inside of me, can't bear that pain.
Even me am afraid to finger myself, i mean inserting it completely, yeah really need to see a doctor
thanksss really i appreciated each and everyone advice, it helps me a lot^_^____take care.
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reader, WordsCards  +, writes (9 August 2010):
I'm sorry you are having all this pain. You really need to get to a gynocologist to be sure that there is nothing physically wrong. You can go to Planned Parenthood.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/findCenter.asp
Please DO NOT continue to let him finger you until you have seen a gynocologist. It's your body and you have the right to say NO, Not now, Not until I've made sure everything is okay.
You do not OWE your boyfriend sex just because he is your boyfriend. If just fingering hurts, then why would you want to have sex? Sex is going to hurt a lot more. You shouldn't have sex just because your boyfriend wants to. You should only do it if it's going to be pleasurable for you.
Question for you: Do you get aroused at all when you are messing around with your boyfriend? If you are dry it is going to hurt. Tell your boyfriend that simply putting his finger inside you is not giving you pleasure and he needs to find another way to give you pleasure. See if he will give you oral sex. That should be a lot less painful for you.
But first go to Planned Parenthood!
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Make sure you get very wet down there. You can use lube as well, if foreplay doesn't help. Also, relax, try to think that your vagina is made to handle ANY thickness of penis.
If still have trouble, you might as well see a doctor.
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