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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am in a new job and i am finding it difficult to make new friends. I started off fine when i first started this new job, i didnt know anyone and was polite and getting to know people. Six months later i still dont really know anyone and i have no close friends at work. 3 other people started at the same time as me and they have all really blended in with the group, exchanging numbers and having a laugh and doing things outside of work. I feel like an outsider still, talking to them or striking up conversation terrifies me. I am never invited to anything and i feel that no one is interested in getting to know me. I am on the verge of finding a new job and starting over-even though i love my job.Why did these people start off friendly to me, and now they seem uninterested? I feel as if what i say bores them. I cant act my true self infront of them as im scared to. How can I get over this shyness as it is ruining my life!
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reader, cleeowls2  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 look my girl friend use to be the same way until she met me the best way to handle your shy problem is to find one of the people u started with and asked them questions about work. people like to feel useful so why not spark up small talk about work i mean u do like your job? u should feel more comfortable talking about that then a date with a boyfriend. and if they look like they are willing to help u trust me they are willing to be your friend. they probably think u dont like them. just like u see change in them they seee change in u. speak up!
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