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writes:The man I truly love is getting married in two days. I don't know what to do. I am going to it, and I know both him and her. I am fairly good friends with the both of them, him especially... I don't know how I'm going to be able to hold myself up during the wedding... This has been bugging me for the past 9 months. Please help! Does anyone have any tips at all? How can I get over something I don't want to get over but know that I have to? How can i get over this anger and jealousy without going through self destruction? The thought of this wedding and them being married has been affecting my whole life, my decisions, my thoughts, my work sometimes. It's crazy. I don't know what to do! Please... help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): When the pastor says "Who objects?", stand up and say "I do---I love you _____ and can't fathom my life without you in it." And then walk out.
If he calls....it hit home. If not, then you have to move on but at least will have a great story to tell and will feel like you did something about it. If you don't say anything you will go your whole life wishing you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Get over him!!! he seems to be happy. why would you want to ruin that for him..? let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Vow, it sounds as if you are obsessed with this guy.
You have to let go; he is getting married; allow him the happiness he deserves;
I suggest if you do not feel comfortable about the wedding, don't go; you can alwys make some excuse later should they ask you
WHy make yourself hurt more or embarrass yourself at the wedding by crying or something stupid.
Start getting your mind occupied with other things and start dating, go out with friends; take up a hobby.
If you are not strong enough to do this on your own get help from a counsellor.
You can do it, come on; MOVE ON!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): you cant make someone love you. and obviously if he is getting married then he loves this other woman. to be honest, i wouldnt go to the wedding. not if it is going to upset you so much. and i would never tell them how you feel. your best bet is to try and move on and find yourself a good man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): wow, sounds like that movie "MY BEST FRIENDS WEDDING". doess this guy thats about to get married seem happy? im sure he is. so why would you want to ruin his happiness is you love him?...best thing to do is let him go. get over him.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): If you can't control yourself I suggest you don't go to the wedding. Want it or not it is their special day and you should not ruin it!
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