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writes:Please, i need help, i have such strong feelings for my teacher :'(it feels so much like love, i want to be with him forever, but he clearly views me as a child, being his student and all, and i know that nothing will ever happen - i'm past the stage of beliving that - but that doesn't take away these crazy emotions: i just want to forget about him, i wish i'd never met him because then i wouldn't feel this pain every second of the day. he teaches me still, and i cannot concentrate at all in his lessons, i don't take in a word he says, and i'm doing my GCSEs so its kind of important that i pay attention: HELP! what do i do? i feel so so so depressed and , i wish i'd never met him because i love him so so so much but knowing that he doesn't feel anything back, or even know, is slowly killing me, its affecting everything: my school work, my relationships with my family and friends, my mental health... i haven't ever told anyone how i feel, and its becoming so hard to cope.I've tried to tell the school councellor loads of times, but i just couldn't do it, its not like me at all to talk about my feelings.Please, i don't want to know how i can get with him, or if he likes me back, or if i should flirt with him, i just want, no, NEED to know how on earth i can forget him, because i can't go on much longer like this :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi! first of all, thanks so much for the advice - you guys have been so helpful - secondly, i thought i'd just provide an update to the situation - i think he knows how i feel about him now, although how he found out i don't know, but lately he's been sort of ignoring and avoiding me, and he doesn't make eye contact in lessons like he used to :(
Where can i find a psychiatrist? i don't know where i could get in touch with one in my area.
Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): I think it's best you stay away from the school counselor and see a psychiatrist instead. It's great, they're sworn to confidentiality and you can tell him/her anything and they'll suggest tips for you. If you want to pursue your teacher...I can't say 'yes' only because I don't know the whole story but really see someone before you make a move. Or you could just talk to me my email is: [email address blocked]
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reader, cottongin  +, writes (22 April 2008):
 okay Firstly do not tell the scholl counsellor as for me it ended up bad (however the situation was different but thats a long story) don't tell them. you don't want any faculty/staff to know about this. especially when it is effecting you so much. oh how i have dealt with many friends who love someone so much they get depressed by it...its hard to defeat yes.... what i may suggest is slyly try to talk to the teacher more. you need to become more of their friend. that in manyyyyy ways will help you to get over him. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): i really do feel for you:(
im in sort of he same situation as you and it really does kill
a good way to try and get over someone is to write a long letter to them telling them about your feelings. don't leave one detail spare - no matter how embarrasing it is. just pour your heart out. then isntead of giving it to them go to somewhere outdoors but where you can be on your own (a park maybe) and burn it. hopefully some of your feelings will go up in smoke with the letters. it has helped me.
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