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How can I get over my shyness?

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Question - (28 June 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 28 June 2007)
A female United States age 36-40, *irtypirate writes:

im so shy about alot of things about myself i mean i like the way i look an i know he duz too but i just cant get over being modest i geuss but im in love an my being so shy stops us from doing alot how do i get over it?????????????

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007):

Shyness can even be in small proportions a nice trait, but if it's detrimental to your social life you to have to surpass this. You have to be more decided and more active. Is it only your bf you're shy with? I'm sure he chose you for who you are and you needn't fear being yourself, expressing yourself and having initiatives. Put down for ex what you two have in common and bring them about next time you meet, randomly...

It may be that you find his presence inhibits you because you're too concerned of his opinions, but you could overcome this by practising being... communicative with strangers, yes. Periodically, twice a week, initiate talks with strangers, in the buss etc. What means "doing a lot?" Try whispering to him to help you in "doing a lot", whatever this means, he'll know he has to encourage you. Also don't put yourself in his shoes to anticipate his opinions and see how he judges you, one cause of shyness could be hoping to find out what the others prefer and try to fit that pattern. Instead, try to be who you are, bit less self-aware and more spontaneous. And don't question what you say being wrong. Try to be who you are when nobody's in the room to watch you...

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