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writes:so i have a drug problem. i have smoked weed for 17 years on a constant basis. it has never interfered with anything. i have always held a higher up position at work and i never let it come in contact with my family or anything. basically, you wouldnt know i smoked it all day unless i told you that. my boyfriend is the same way. now about 4 months ago we both quit smoking it. just felt we could be doing so much more with the money we spend on it. just cold turkey we quit. it was hard for a couple of weeks but afterwards we felt great. well. we went camping a couple of weeks ago and decided we will get just a little bit to just have a good fun weekend. my problem is, i like both lives. i like how i feel when i am clean and straight. but i love how i feel when i am high. when it was all gone, he was able to quit again no problem. said we should just do it once in a while for a treat. i on the other hand seem to be more dependent on it than him or something cause it has been about a week since i had some and i wake up feeling sick in the morning and i am constantly depressed. the only time i feel really happy is when i am high. dont get me wrong. my man makes me happy but i really dont get to see him that much as he works a lot and is really tired when he gets home. i cant work anymore and i am very lonely all day. weed makes the day go by quicker and helps me take my mind off of things. is it wrong to want to smoke pot all day? what can i do so that i dont feel depressed all the time about the fact that i dont have any? he has said that if i want it, he will get it for me. but he doesnt want it. but when i have it, he cant help but smoke it. what do i do?
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Hi there, I would first write down the reasons you should quit smoking the pot. Then I would write in another column why you feel you should not. Compare the two and see which you think would be the better plan, quit or keep smoking. I am hoping the positive side will be the one chosen. Next you must make a total committment to stop, if that is what you want to do, that is the more helpful stance. This involves loving yourself and taking back your control over your life, because as long as you are smoking the pot, the pot is in control, you have given up your power, not a good place to be. Then after you have made this firm, notice I say firm committment, you need to find a drug counseling center and get together with a good counselor, a professional who can give you vital advice on how to completely stop smoking pot. Find out what it actually does to your body, what the real deal is, does it destroy brain cells or what. My impression and I am no expert, is that it is probably dulling your system in some way, you don't feel and that is why you are so floating above everything, again giving over your self over to some other power. Take back your life, and make the decision to be in charge. You would do well to get a hobby or something to occupy your time, you are not being helped with so much time on your hands, learn to paint or try writing, there is a website that publishes your writing, it is www.triond.com, look into it and use it a way of venting. It is a good site. Your boyfriend is going to make a committment as well, to not smoke around you, so you have to get him to be in this with you.. It is well worth it to be the director of your life. Be good to yourself and stay in touch. There should also be a few books out there which will give you advice, but I would want you to find a human to talk to, a professional. Life is short, use you time wisely, we are only here for a little while. Take good care, learn to be your own best friend.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 August 2008):
I don't know if you know this or not, but marijuana isn't an addictive drug. You act like you "need" it and stated that your boyfriend quit "cold turkey." The reason why you feel depressed is because marijuana has been linked to depression. Just quit smoking it and find something else to do than sitting around and wanting smoking it all day. I may be biased because it is one of my pet peeves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Well, the fact that you smoke pot as something for comfort really doesn't help you after the effects have worn off. If you try to fix a bad situation you are in, then that will make you feel better in the end. You should tell your boyfriend that you don't want him to get any pot and that will keep this cycle from continuing. Come up with a plan for your life and goals you want to reach in the future.
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