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writes:So here's the deal: My friend has claimed, "I'm gay. I'm a lesbian," since I met her. She and my brother started hangin out together when she came to visit me. Before she ever came to my house I had fallin for her. When she finally realized that I liked her she'd already spoken to my brother about them dating. He spoke to me and told me, "she said that if she had to choose between us she won't choose either."Being the nice person I am I wanted my brother and my best friend to be happy so I backed down. They've been dating for the past month. It's been killing me since the moment I said I'd back down.How can I move on? How can I get over it when I see both of them every day?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Its brilliant to hear you are feeling brighter and i hope greatly that things stay that way =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been doing just that, spending less time with her. My parents brought me with them to go meet my uncle and his friend yesterday. His friend seemed really nice. I've kept several things he said and tucked them away in the back of my mind so I can use them to smile a genuine smile at a later date.
I'm not over them but I am dealing better with it. Thanks to a wonderful advisor(you)and a few kind words from a guy that stared into my eyes for a day and a half and was still surprised at how blue they are. :)
Thank you.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (17 February 2010):
Your brother will care he is just young and male and wont want to show it. can i ask whgat you are using to take your mind off it? otherwise i guess you need to try and get over her, if she is taken and not willing to change that, and if she knows how much you love her but continues to hurt you then maybe you should try and spend less time with her to help your wounds heal. please give me some more feedback and tell me how things go =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've tried. All she says is that she didn't mean to like him, and he doesn't respond with anything but anger. I believe she cares but he does not. She hugged me last night and I cried on her shoulder. She asked why I was crying and I told her that I just want them to be happy. Her response was "That just tells me how much you really love me."
I think I found something to keep my mind off of it, but I know it won't last long.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (15 February 2010):
Well this is a tough one as you want other people to be happy but at the same time you dont want to be upsetting yourself. Are you and your brother close? If so tell him hoe this is making you feel you are hos family and if they have only been dating for a month then it wont be difficult to end it. If you are not close or you do not want to talk to him about it then ask your friend, ask her why she told you she was gay and tell her how you feel about the siuation and see what she has to say about it, if these people care about you then they will care about how they are making you feel. good luck and please feel free to tell me how this goes or ask anything extra =]
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