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writes: I know this sounds stupid, but when me and my bf have sex, when I'm on top (like, resting slightly forward, putting weight on my hands which are either side of his head) I can't seem to go fast enough.It's hard to go fast, and I know this is how he prefers it, and how he ejaculates.Any tips on a position similar that I can be on top in, but go faster? Thanks :]
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reader, Ratha  +, writes (22 January 2008):
As you've no doubt noticed, the physics of the female on top isn't exactly equivalent to the opposite situation. You're using your leg muscles primarily, in a rather restricted range of motion, to move your entire torso up and down (or forward and backward), which is a pretty taxing workout. By contrast, the male thrust is a bit more localized in the pelvis itself, with the drive coming primarily from the butt muscles and a wider possible range of motion. So it's hardly surprising that you can't reach Warp 9 thrust speed the same way he does when he's on top.
You may have more luck if, rather than trying to move up and down the shaft, you focus on other movements with less straight in-and-out, such as grinding, or circular hip patterns. Super-speed bouncing up and down on him sounds good in theory, but is actually fairly dangerous - you come down at the wrong angle on the penis with the force of your body weight, and you could seriously injure him. Better to take it easy than to gun it and end up with a snap, a scream, and a trip to the emergency room.
Happily, just because he's on the bottom doesn't mean all he can do is lie there and think of England. A man can thrust perfectly well in that position; in fact, it may be less effort for him than when he's on top and partly occupied with supporting his own weight. So sit up - or lie down on him - and let him do some of the work. Trade off being the driver when one of you gets tired!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 Hey, try the cowgirl position, bascilly sit up, ask him to hold your hips and both of you work out a pace that is fast for him, doesn't exhaust you and is pleasurable.
the others gave great advice =]
message me if you need anything x
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reader, daletom  +, writes (18 January 2008):
A lot of guys find it more difficult to climax when they are on the bottom. Usually this is a good thing - their partner gets more, and better, orgasms. When she is satisfied they simply roll into a position that is more stimulating for him and he actually climaxes as she is starting her "coming down" (afterglow) phase.
Look at how your weight is supported. He may need more freedom to position himself and actively participate in the stroking. It's tough to do that if you're mashing him into the mattress. (Women can have the same problem when the guy is on top.) Try supporting more of your weight on knees and elbows, or grab the headboard behind him.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Well.. maybe you should try not to lean forward. If he holds your hands, he will give you some stability, that way you can just move your waist and it should be easier (as Phil said). Also, you can rest your hands is his chest.
The trick is, it wont be as pleasurable to you because your clit will not be brushing his skin as with the pose you are currently using. Try to do a combination in which the both of you can be satisfied.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): This is a simple one. Don't try to move your whole body, which is far too exhausting. Just move from the waist, rather like a belly dancer.
But if you want it to last longer you can take your time and enjoy your own pleasure. Forget about pleasuring him and go at your own pace, and if once in a while he doesn't quite 'get there' that's no big deal because he can, after all, thrust up and down himself to finish himself off while you remain motionless - unless he's a lazy so-and-so!
Phil
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