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writes:My parents are screaming at each other everyday. Each of them tells me they can't take it anymore. I want them to go to counseling but my mom refuses. She thinks it's pointless. That this is my dad's fault. That he will never change. That talking about it won't help. That it's been years and he will never change. That he's an idiot.I don't know what to do to get her to go talk to a psychologist on her own without my dad. I consider myself a patient person but I lost it last time because no one in our family wants to make any effort to live harmoniously and everyone just want to shut down and isolate themselves from everyone else. It frustrated me that my mom didn't even want to make an effort. I don't know what to do and feel desperate. Every time I hear them argue it drains the little energy I have left.Any advice on how to get her to talk to a counselor would be much appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy mom is very stubborn. I have touched the issue these past couple of days. I will write any updates. Is there a stigma with going to counseling. Is there a way to get someone to want to go to counseling? Has anyone here gone on someone's suggestion? If so how did that go? Has anyone convinced someone else to go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Why not tell your Mom that You want to see a counseler and that all the fighting and name calling is tearing you apart. How can she refuse you...and it can't hurt for you to get your feelings out with a professional also! Get her to accompany you and maybe you can gradually get her talking...and hopefully, eventually your Dad can join in too! Think it's worth a shot???
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Maybe Xerox what you wrot in this article and give it to her. Let her know how you are being affected by all of this. What about your father, what does he have to say about it? Try sitting them both down and talking to them.Your mother sounds stubborn, with all due respect.
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reader, kurvy  +, writes (12 November 2008):
If your mother really loves you, she would do it just for you. Try your hardest to convince her to go to counseling and tell her that you want to try something new out. Tell her exactly how you feel about all the arguments that kill you every time they argue. If there is some heart in her, she would be willing to help you.
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