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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Lately me and my mum just haven't been getting on. There is only the three of us, me, mum and dad and the dog lol. Of course, since there is only me and my parents (and the dog) its not surprising that we keep butting heads every other day.But lately me and mum have really gone down hill.I am not being cruel when i say my mum is not the sharpest tool in the box, she has never been one of those people who want to achieve anything. She has had the same job for 33 years, and while its not an easy job by any means, at least in this climate, she has one and she still moans. She has a car, but won't drive it, except to work, she goes away with my dad every weekend, but never drives him, then moans about how he got her up early, just so she could have the breakfast he made her!! What is so bad about that i often wonder.Then there is her reluctance to do anything for me. I am not lazy, i work, i pay my way, i do chores for her when she asks me to, yet when i ask for a favour, she won't do it. For example, last week she was going to get some money out of the bank, and since she was going down into the town i asked her to post me a parcel. She told me she had no time, but guess where the Post Office was when she was getting her money. NEXT DOOR!I think she is being very mean and i am wondering, she is 50? Do you think she might be going through the change? I am sure she wasn't this difficult a few months ago.Another factor that annoys me is that when she has had her two bottles of perry a night, she becomes very loud and aggressive. Most of the time me and dad laugh it off, but at times she becomes very hostile and says mean things and again refuses to do something you ask her.I am not sure how much more i can take from her without really losing my temper.How can i get her to see how bad she is being at the present. I ask you because it gives a fresh perspective on things. My friends are prejudiced in my favour and i am hesitant to discuss mum with my dad.Advice would be much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): it's natural to begin to clash with your parents when you are in very close contact with them while being an adult. I would think about moving out of their house- of you're working then why don't you think about getting your own place? Your mum might be too polite to say anything, but I would imagine she would like to be free from the role of mother with children still living at home having reached the age of 50. Perhaps it's time to stand on your own two feet rather than complain about your mum's behaviour in her own home.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 February 2009):
It could be the change, or it could be the large amount that she is drinking.
Just try to give her a bit of space for a while, or research some herbal remedies and dose her with them!
Why not just ask her if she is ok, tell her she hasn't been herself lately and you are worried about her.
Good Luck!! xx
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