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writes:Hello there I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I have noticed that on his penis he has some weird looking white spots. I have said something to him but he said that he has had them before and that they are due to stress. The thing is I am not stupid and I know they are warts because my male friend had them before and he showed me them. I know my boyfriend has not cheated on me because he also has scars on his penis where he had these "stress spots" removed before. I know that once you have had the virus it can come back at any time. My boyfriend is obviously very embarrassed about it and he is just avoiding the fact that they are there. The main problem is that I have been sleeping with him unprotected. I have checked myself down below and there is nothing there yet, but it is obvious that the virus is inside me now. How can I get my boyfriend to the clinic without embarrassing him? I am pretending that I believe his story about them being stress spots because I dont want to damage his ego. So Has anyone got any good tips please?????
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (19 September 2006):
 You will need to check yourself for a while to be sure that they are not present, the HPV virus can live in your body for over 2 years without presenting itself. Once you have the virus thats it and it never completely clears up, but the break outs will most probably lessen. Some can go many years wihtout another outbreak or some only ever get the one. In women, the HPV virus can lead to rogue cells of the cervix area (if left untreated can turn to the cancerous cell) so its vital to have your smear tests on time and to clear up any warts, as and when they should appear. As for getting him to the docs... well how about telling him you are concerned about him and yourself and that you want him to have a check up just to make sure hes okay as you love him. I dont think there is an easy way to tell anyone to go along to the docs with a problem such as his or along to a GUM clinic. How about just coming clean that you know what they are and that you both have to deal with this!! Tell him its a fact hes got it and you are prepared to go along with him to lighten the load, its done now and no going back, but treatment needs to be sought. You have been together a year, you have unprotected sex, its about time you opened up to one another and talked about things like genital warts. Not saying its easy, but its not just him now, its you aswell. To clear his up will not be as bad in all cases, generally the male is prescribed a drug called Wartner, its a cream thats applied and disolves the warts, not everyone needs to have them actually burnt off at a clinic, so if he does open up and go to the doc he can ask for that, Wartner cream for Males.. which can be used at home. You can find info on the net, but cant get it without prescription.
Just tell him you care for him and this needs to be addressed sooner rather than later, im sure if he cares for you he will understand your concerns.
Take care x
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