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writes:Alright:LSo, I'm currently in the midst of my 2nd long-relationship. I'm not particularly experienced, having only been with 3 girls including my present girlfriend and was inquiring as to which positions/rhythms and how much staying power would be required to induce an orgasm in my current girlfriend through penetration alone.I'm fully aware, having read a fair amount of scientific and editorial literature, that most women struggle with this, but I'm just looking to see what I can do to try and make it possible. I've had great success in the past using manual/oral stimulation, but my current girlfriend has smaller downstairs dimensions than my prior partners and seems to lack a g-spot, making it hard for me to do much of anything besides oral. I'm content with our current sex life and understand that as we're together longer I'll know her body better and things will only improve, but I'm basically asking because I want to add to my bag of tricks so to speak. She's never really had any kind of orgasm prior to me (being equally inexperienced) and doesn't master bate, so she is unable to offer any kind of advice on her end.I seem to be able to get her close to that point with certain thrusting techniques, she shakes a little and stuff but I can't seem to make that last push to finish the job. Any help offered would be much appreciated.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2011):
 YOU CAN'T MAKE her do it. seriously and trying and making it a goal will take all the fun out of sex.
I love sex. I have great feelings from it but I DO NOT have orgasms from penetration. I am 51 I've been having sex since I was 14 and I have had exactly ONE orgasm from penetraion once and it was a fluke.... truly.
Sex for women is not usually about the orgasm anyway it's about the closeness and the touching.
have you asked her if it's that important to her or is this just YOUR personal goal?
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I have never personally had an orgazm with penetration. (aged 40 now) Oral is the only way with me :D Sometimes that's the only way for women. :D
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (5 December 2011):
The answer lies more in foreplay than thrusting techniques! Also mood. Woman generally don't turn on as automatically as men, also they have hormone cycles that play a significant role. Also if she is on the pill you have an extra challenge.
It usually is best to pay attention to the outside of her body rather than groping around looking for the g spot! Start with a relaxing situation and slowly get her really excited, very gently, and at the right second you can penetrate and give her a great orgasm. Dont fumble around or you will lose the moment! Much more of an art than sceince though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011):
You can't.
That is, you may not be able to make it happen. Accept that.
I would start by having her figure out what gets her off on her own and then she can involve you in that. That may or may not include penetration.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 December 2011):
 Honestly, I think you have a better chance at helping her orgasm if you don't try and make it into something akin to a science project.
Read up on G-spot though, but your best best is learning how to stimulate her clit while having sex.
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