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writes:im 25 weeks pregnant and my ex doesnt want anything to do with the baby., is there any way i can make him responsible financially when the baby is born and does it matter if he has a good job or not?
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reader, agonylou +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Hi, My Advise Is..You cannot make a man take responsibility he will only take that if he wishes to. there are lots of babies in this world whos fathers dont want anything to do with them witch is very sad, but most men are like that. it take 2 to tango and men should have to take responisibly for there actions in the bed room and men aswell as women know that there is a chance of pregnancy. if your man does not have a good job then you can still make the pay money for the baby by going to your nearest job centre and telling them the sitution and telling them hes name and they will take money from him and give it to you. hope this helps hun x
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reader, blessed babe +, writes (18 July 2008):
blessed babe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your advice, I can provide for the baby, we both wanted him but my ex suddenly changed his mind, we broke up and its now just the way he says it. its as if i cant really do anything to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Legally, it probably won't matter if he has a good job or not. They'll hold him responsible whether he's rich or poor, just the amount he's required to pay will change. If he really fights against you on this, then you may have to get a DNA test done to prove the child is his.
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reader, Baby Blue  +, writes (17 July 2008):
I might be young and everything but i feel like there is nothing yout can do to make your ex responsible for the baby financially because if you asked him already and he said no then there is no way he is going to say yes if you keep begging him.It may be hard to raise a baby but i feel that you should be strong and take care of your baby after it is born by yourself.Even if he did agree to take care of the baby financially you would be forever debted to him..he would hold it over your head forever.And i do not think you would want that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Yes. You will probably need to prove paternity, but through the family courts you can apply for child support from the Child Support Agency (CSA). If he is the father, he will have to pay a monthly maintenance fee towards the care of his child, which will depend on how much he earns. If he has a low-paying job, the sum will be tiny, as it will only be around a tenth of his earnings or so.What you need to consider is whether you actually want to take care of this baby. You don't consider at your young age whether you can provide for the child. Why don't you consider having the baby adopted? There are open adoptions where you can meet the new parents and keep in contact with your child if you wish; or leave it open for your child to contact you when they are eighteen. There are plenty of well-off couples who are childless and would desperately like a baby of their own; in comparison, can you provide and are you willing?Your first concern seems to be if you can make your ex fork out for getting you knocked up, rather than whether you are able to look after this child. It's true that if he's the father he is legally responsible, but you do not have to be a mother if you really do not want to. Consider that you have many years yet to have another child if you choose, when your life is more stable.
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