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writes: Hi,Ive been with my partner about 2 years. The problem is that we dont have alot of sex anymore and that bothers me. I would like to have sex all the time but appreciate this isnt going to happen, so would at least meet half way and say once a week. When in fact im lucky at the moment to be engaging in sex once a month. He says there is nothing wrong with his sex drive, just doesnt see the need for sex all the time. He still loves me, fancies me and we do alot of things together and are very caring and loving. He doesnt see my point that as a woman i need to feel wanted sexually, desired and made to feel the sexiest thing there is. How can i get him to at least meet me in the middle as everytime i bring it up it causes a row and he then feels pressured to perform. The sex is good and thats why i dont understand why he seems to not care less about it, i know that overtime your sex life dies down a bit, but we used to have sex every day all the time at first in the first year, and then gradually went down to twice a week, once a week, every other week, now its about once a month. He doesnt see the problem as he says he loves me and we are much more than sex, i know that and i respect that but im a woman with needs and i dont know how to get him to budge on this issue, it becomes an issue all the time and i get where i feel very down about it, as i need to feel desired! The rest of the relationship is great, and so's the sex when i get it! But i dont know hot to resolve this, he just thinks im nagging but its been going on for a few months now and i dont know how best to handle it as he doesnt seem to see my point regarding and thinks its all about the sex, when its actually craving his touch sexually, being downright naughty and spontaneous together and enhancing our otherwise great relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): HI there i was with my ex boyf for 5 years and i had the same problem as you after a while they just want to dothe m8s scene and drink which made it worse for me cos we lived together anyway. i found it helped i would say by about 60% when i jus sat him down was honest and said how i felt!
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