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writes:What do i need to do to prove it?My boyfriend an I are in a split up right now, an it has been over a week so far, an all i want to do is prove to him that i want him an i love him. He told me when we broke up that it was not me an that it was him. I love the man an i want to do anything i can for him, i kinda wait on him hand an foot, at least that is what others say. I constintly ask him what is wrong, an he gets frustrated with me. He won't tell me how he feels when he is mad, he bottles it up inside til he explodes. I am an emotional wreck, all i want to do is prove to him that love him. I have told him i want to marry him, i mean i am only 20 but i have been in enough relationships to know that there is something different about him. I have a 14 month daughter who adores him, an when he is with her they look like father an daughter, (he is not the father) but my daughter calls him dada. So what can i do? AM i trying to hard? what can i do? i want to prove that i will not leave him like his ex did.
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reader, mummymeme  +, writes (2 May 2007):
Hi - Well you are in a stew over this man arnt you! well from the start ive got to say the obvious and you know it deep down, you are an intelligent woman; you are trying to hard.
Men run away if they see desperation, they like to be the hunter and feel its unmanly to be pursued, back off a little; let him know what he is missing by dressing to impress but not obviously trying to get his attention maybe a little makeup nothing too over the top; less is more, just enough to show you are in control of your life and can survive quite happily on your own; this may not be the case but you need to make him think this. When you see him just smile nicely and walk on by, letting him know you still like him but you have other things to do; he wont like you suddenly taking control, the fear of loss is a powerful thing to men. Dont try to make him jealous, you run the risk of him thinking your playing games or worse being easy. If he comes running back or showing the slightest attention keep your excitement to yourself, he is the lucky one for having your attention not the other way round - there are more women on this planet than men, you have the pick, not him. you are in control and owe it to your daughter to show inner strength and hold out for good behaviour from a man, dont teach her desperation.
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