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writes: There is a guy who works in the office above mine but for a different company that I am attracted to. I don't know anything about him and don't see him everyday. A few weeks ago in passing we locked eyes and smiled at each other, I was smitten. Since I've only seen him twice in passing during lunchtime, but he has been on his phone. I want to make it easy for him to approach me, hoping that he's available. I guess my problem is establishing if he likes me enough to approach me initially. On the two occasions that I've seen him, I've been sitting on a wall on a quiet road having my lunch alone and I've looked up and smiled at him whilst he was on his phone. I don't want to look desperate and don't want to spend weeks Infatuated by the idea that one day he would approach me, but at the same time don't want to miss an opportunity to get to know this guy. Does anyone have any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2014): If he comes to your company on scheduled basis, just be available to say hello, and see if he does anything accept lock eyes and smile. It is so hard to offer advice to people "smitten" by glances. That to me is just a little desperate. It's hard to tell if you're reading too much into something so benign.
If you really want his attention, perhaps you might have to approach him and introduce yourself. You say you sat on the wall having lunch; whilst he was on the phone. He didn't see that as an chance to say hello. You weren't in the office, and that would have been a golden opportunity.
So I guess he isn't interested. Two shy people are incompatible in my book. Someone has to be extroverted enough to initiate introduction and a conversation. Honestly, it's quite irritating to me. Break the ice, or purge the attraction.
He could have very easily been on the phone with his wife or girlfriend. Don't ever rule out a boyfriend. If you're too shy to approach someone; then just let it go.
I feel that people who want to get to know me will approach me, or I will approach them. That has been very consistent. I don't like rejection; but it's a sure cure for an unsubstantiated crush. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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