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writes:I need help...I'm in love with a guy, our past is pretty messed up... (he's cheated once while drunk, etc) ... we've fought off an on since then about petty crap and the same issue (cheating). He made amends when it came to cheating, though I always have questions to ask... seeing as he's so far away it's hard to not be worried.Well he got sick of my questions i guess, turned distant after TWO weeks (we just had an amazing birthday together)... wouldn't say he loved me, etc...I couldn't accept it so freaked out and called a quits.How can I get him back without pushing him further away? I'm so scared to be with out him because I really do love him. Very much. What can I do to make him remember what it's like with me in person? Please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): He cheated and thats horrible that he did that to you. Being drunk in my eyes is only an excuse, it doesnt make it ok!!
But why would you want to get back with this man if you cant trust him.
It seems you cannot forget your past or move on from it, so its never going to work is it?
You can tell him how much you love him till you are blue in the face, speaking and proving are two different things. Your not letting him forget what he did, so thats whats pushing him away, he done it, there is no more he can do other than say he's sorry and try to make you feel secure the best way he can.
If you really want him back and you really want it to work, then you have to let go of the past and concentrate on your future together.
Tell him how much you love him and tell him you want to start fresh that the past is the past and from this point on that is where you shall leave it in the past!!
If you cannot do that, then both of you are only going to get hurt. and maybe its time to move on yourself.
Good Luck
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