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writes: I lied to my GF and now I feel terrible. It was only a small lie but she is still furious. How can I regain her trust? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): A lie is a lie.
She probably feels hurt and betrayed because you did not think to be open and honest with her; the woman you love and chose to be with. She deserves truth, especially from you.
What person does not want to love and accept someone they care about? She did not get this from you and that is what hurts.
A lie in any "degree" shows that you do not respect them enough or trust in them enough. She doesn't want 60% of you, she wants 100%.
You know what you have done and even a small lie has lead to world wars...she is feeling the severity of it even if you are incapable of seeing how bad it really is.
She now struggles with which parts of you you chose to give her are real, true and which parts are lies. One lie has introduced into her life, her world with you, doubt.
That one lie is now what she struggles with as it puts your integrity in question.
A lie is a lie. It has a horrid power of undoing good.
Her anger is valid. Her hurt is valid as well.
You love her; you stick by her side and show her that you love her and prove day by day, moment by moment, that you are someone she can trust in.
Love can overcome all obstacles.
Hope all works out.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Without telling us what the lie was it is rather hard to give much advice.
Apologise profusely and then make daily efforts to improve her trust. Do not resent her anger.
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