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writes: So theirs this girl that I like, she's 18.we have been seeing eachtoher for about 3 months. She's great I've never met a girl like her. She's gorgeous (I wish u could she her) theirs just one problem.. The problem is that she's distant with me, she said she has trust issues and I understand, she's been through a lot.I really wanna get her to trust me and open up, but I have no idea how. I've had other relationships, but nothing like her she's just so special to me, theirs just something about her. Anyone have any advice on how I can let her know she can trust me? Or is it simply out of my hands? Reply to this Question
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Friendship. Just continue your basic friendship as best you can and doors may open up.
I once won the love of a girl who had a TERRIBLE past (and she was only able to tell me about that after a while) and was hurt by other guys by just sticking around, being there for her, talking to her, inviting her to winter ball (just as friends). It took me months, but in the end, when she finally said yes, it was all worth it.
And even if the door does close, friendship by itself is a beautiful thing too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): I have been in her situation for a while and the best thing that you can do is to just constantly reassure her with your actions that you are not like all the other people that broke her trust or took advantage of her. Do not ever give her a reason to think that you might treat her like the others did. It is going to take time, and it won't happen all at once, but if she is really as amazing to you as you say she is then she is worth working for.
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