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writes:okay so i know this is a love advice site but ive been given great advice in the past so here it goes...so my sister who is 15 had to move to my aunts last year because my dad was going to prison, well he's out now and shes being forced to come back. My dad is an alcoholic and overall just not a good parent. I moved out at 16 because i couldnt take it anymore, my question is...how would i go about getting custody of her? and it is possible...ill give you some info about myself...im 20, im very mature, i go to community college and almost have my degree, i live in a great neighborhood with my fiance, i dont have a job but my fiance makes quite a bit as a nurse, i have a clean house with no drugs or alcoholso obviously i know the first step would be i would have to ger married to my fiance to count her money but besides that is it possible...the only problem i can imagine would be that im 20...please help, i need to get this resolved fastadvice from a lawyer or DSS worker would be awesome lol
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reader, MrMcgalliard +, writes (16 March 2013):
MrMcgalliard is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWelp, I got custody today (: thanks to all who supported me. Things are looking up. XOXO
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): Please have her find a hiding place and get a notebook and start documenting everything and anything that is going on related to his drinking/illegal activity that put him in jail in the first place if anything should occur, and how he is treating her, what he says to her. Dates and times, the best she can do...and you do the same with whatever you see or she tells you...this will be VERY helpful to help your case.
My hope for you is that his time in jail has taught him something and he is going to go to AA or something to stay off booze and they can have a fresh start...obviously you do not see this happening. There have been many cases, that 18 yo's have been given custody of their siblings...don't lose hope.
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reader, MrMcgalliard +, writes (16 May 2012):
MrMcgalliard is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for your advice, i just think she shouldnt have to deal with my dad, i moved out at sixteen but ny dads going to put up a fight for her, daughters in south are highly protected but im going to do my best, hopefully me being 20 wont effect things too much although corts dont recognize anyone as an adult until 21 i think..
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): You're an awesome and wonderful big brother! You have my deepest respect and admiration.
sorry I don't have advice, just wanted to express that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): You can google it (how to get custody of a minor child) ....I did find this (hopefully they will allow the link), but you have to look up what the laws are in the state you live: http://www.ehow.com/how_5034357_file-minor-seek-custody-child.htmlBest of luck to you....this is huge and you are doing something amazing to help your sister.Make sure that your sister knows what to do and who to call if your father is drunk around her or does anything that makes her feel threatened...nobody should have to live like that. She can call the police and they will get her out of the home immediately and in most cases, instead of putting them into temp emergency foster care, they would rather have the child go with a relative and they will do an emergency background check and ask questions, look around at your home, want to know who lives there, can you care for her, make sure she stays in school, where the child can sleep,etc. and have you sign papers. Then they will direct you to what happens next, go to court, what to file...you can even force him to pay child support....I went through this process with one of my daughter's friends...up until a family member finally stepped up to take the poor girl in who was being forced to live with a drunk/drugs mother. She was with me for about 2 weeks and I was almost at the process of following through to the end.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Here's a hotline you could call that may be of some help: http://www.childhelp.org/pages/hotline-home
I will look for other links but I think your best bet is to contact a family lawyer who is familiar with the local statutes and family court.
Good luck!
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reader, MrMcgalliard +, writes (15 May 2012):
MrMcgalliard is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy aunt and father
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 May 2012):
Who is forcing her to return?
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