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writes:My boyfriend and I recently got back together. We were a couple for three and a half years and broke up for three months this year. We've only been back together for a week, though we remained in the "working-it-out" stage for the majority of our break up, continuing to act as a couple. We even continued to say I love you. Neither of us much liked the idea of marriage from the get go, but after a year and half of being together we started to talk about it. We didn't plan it for any time soon, not even a proposal, but we were really happy and excited about it. I'm not sure exactly what happened but we found ourselves back in the anti-marriage state. I think it had to do with disagreements on wedding details. I tried to broach the subject a few times within the last year before our break up, but he continued to laugh it off, so I did as well, so as not to be embarrassed. It's not that I want to get married NOW! We just got back together after all, so this isn't even a good time to bring it up. But when the time comes how do I let him know that I would like to someday? I'm wouldn't even anticipate it in the near future just sometime in the future period. I'd like to be subtle about it but still get an honest answer from him. Is there anything I can do to gage his reactions on or anything?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Just talk about it. You've been together long enough that you don't need to tip toe around a subject. Tell him you've changed your thoughts on marriage. You would like to get married someday in the future. You're still in no hurry, but it is something you've figured out you want. Ask him for his thoughts on the subject.
Open, honest communication is what I think you should do.
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