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writes:hi! i was wondering, if you've never kissed a guy but you really want to, how do you get alone with him? my parents are always watching me like a hawk and always have their ears open for anything. they don't agree with me calling boys, much less hanging out with them. so of course im not allowed to date, but that is a totally different subject that i don't really care for any tips about. im 15. one of the guys im thinking of is 15 and the other 17. i only see both of them on sun. and thurs. at church, they always have friends around, which is another problem. so if a male or female could answer the main question it would be very helpful. thanx! Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (22 February 2010):
 OK, Dad speaking here.
Famous, Feel free to ignore me if you must.
It seems to me that you are just interested in getting your ticket punched. You want a kiss, not a relationship. I'm a firm believer that relationships come first. On the other hand, I can still remember being your age. My family had a rule about dating too. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16, then only double or group dates. We managed to get in our kisses at the end of the dates. More kisses if the relationship grew. So that is my answer wait until it fits the rules.
Now having said that, some parents have some strange rules. and you may need to talk to them. A good way to approach this is to ask them about how they see your future , marriage, college, etc.. Get them thinking about the changes in rules that will be needed to get there. Then tell them you think you are ready to start dating. I realize that people are ready at different times. 16 is kind of an average.
The amount of pressure you feel under to get you virgin lips card burned makes me think that you should start getting to know some good young men. If you don't you will act in rebellion and kiss whoever is available when the opportunity presents itself. That is not a healthy way to go.
As a parent I always assume that my girls are further along than they really are. So I tend to either embarrass them or protect them too much. In other words it is no good making sure they have condoms if they haven't kissed yet. Hope I didn't embarrass you.
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reader, Cassie918  +, writes (22 February 2010):
awww thats so cute... 2 guys u planning ? make sure u choose the right the one..do you speak to these guys ? do u see more in them or you just want to kiss them ? maybe you should just arrange a afternoon out to the cinema you bring your girls and he brings his boys that way you would find time to be just together with no parents been there or anything
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (22 February 2010):
 Well I would have said a dance but I'm not sure if your church does that. A quick peck on the cheek would be a good way to start (when everyone's head is turned).
But the most important thing is that you choose one boy and you get to know him. Make sure he is genuinely a good person (this takes time) and he would treat you well. Trust me, even one kiss could turn into a nightmare for you if its with the wrong person.
My first kiss was in school lol It was a quick kiss on the mouth right before my class. My hands were shaking and I was 15. So take your time.
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