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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear people,There is one question I don't have an answer for. I have loved only one guy in my life. Though I know that it's not the same with him. He was only interested in mere physical relations. i did not let him use me for that reason. He abused me in turn and said means words like I am not attractive enough and all. I had always acted like an innocent fool who was unable to understand guys and their nature. But my feelings were pure for him. I think I loved him but he never did. In fact, one of his very close friends tried to be physical with me and I went into depression because of that. The thing happened between me and the previous guy an year back.I talked to him a few days back and he said sorry for everything.He was acting like a friend and was nice to me. But I still could suspect the deception he was showing me. I heard many bad things about him and for that reason, my friend said bad words to him in anger. I was feeling guilty about whatever I did to him just because of what people said. I said sorry to him and we mutually decided never to talk to each other. But, there is girl who is a mutual friend contacted the person who harassed me and was talking about me and my love interest. I felt bad. I realized that this person whom I actually love is actually wrong. I called him in front of my mom and whatever I felt I told him. I never ever in my life wish to contact this person and in fact, all the above mentioned three people who are responsible for making my life miserable. I always read and heard that love is beautiful. It's good but in my case, I loved that person but he is responsible for my miseries. I my heart, there is one guy and it's him. I have tried hard to throw him out of it and my life. But he's still there. I never wish to contact him and I will never do that but my heart is his home. Please people, just tell me a solution for this. How can I stop loving him ? How can I clean my heart of his love which is just one-sided and blind? I am unable to forget to him. I deserve peace and happiness too. There can't be a punishment for loving someone that now I am unable to get him out of my life. Please help. I need your kind help and guidance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Hi There! i am so glad i took the time to read your dilemma.Darling no one can help you if you wont cooperate with yourself. Forgetting someone who means so much to us is so hard to do because we love that someone. Also possible, maybe its not LOVE but obsession. Define Love.... It's anticipation, respect, acceptance, patience, understanding, trust and so on and so forth anything good its LOVE.What is Obsession? its an idea, image or desire. wanting someone so bad and letting your thoughts rule your actions or the way you feel. I am an expert when it comes to letting go my feelings.How to let go and say goodbye to your obsession:1. Pray to God. ask him to help you get rid of unwanted feelings.2. Cut him off. be brave. No more secretly looking at his FB or whatever.3. delete his number on your mobile.4. Start meeting and entertaining other people.5. Go out with your friends.6. Think of all the bad qualities he has.7. Make your self FABULOUS.8. Start a new Hobby.9. Listen to Music that will help you mend your broken heart.10. Most of all be thankful cuz your problem is so manageable, its not about starving, its not about poverty, its not about abortion or divorce or worst. YOU ARE BLESSED and God LOVES YOU. don't worry about the jerk, LET Him Worry about you... Good luck..
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