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writes:hi,im 16 years old and i am in a very confusing and hard situation. iv been in a relationship with a boy for around nine months now. we have done everything together and i mean everything. i love him, he makes me laugh and i love the way he makes me feel. however he is controlling and i have almost lost evey single friend i have. i think he is insecure and i just avoid confrontations with him so i am with him day in and day out 24/7. i miss my friends and they all think i should break up with him , but i love him..he wont change though. it is a hard situation to explain and i really have no idea what to do! i love him and i dont wanna leave him but at the same time i love my friends and i miss having my own life. everyone can tell me that leave him leave him but its harder than that, can anyone help ? please..
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I think if he has that tight a grip on you and you really don't want to break up, you absolutely need to lay down the law for him. He has no right at all to not let you see your friends or control your life. You go out with friends. If he doesn't like it, that's kind of tough. He's isolating you, and that's very unhealthy. I think you need to tell him if he refuses to let you see your friends (you're not his prisoner, you're his girlfriend) then you will leave him. This kind of clingyness is very unhealthy for both of you and will lead to resentment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): hey . if your boyfriend is the same age as you are thats your first problem. boys that age are very controlling . i dont know why but they for some reason want to run the show. I started dating my boyfriend when i was 14 years old and he was VERY controlling. I felt alone, and I lost all my best friends. But i did that because I do love him and i always will. people just say break up but its never that easy in a relationship, and there is always more then everyone see's. however now i am 18 and so many thing changed. i made new better friends and i realize the ones i lost werent very good for me anyways/ guys that are controlling usually grow out of it. They were young and realize there mistakes. Something i used to do when he was controlling would to talk to him about someone else ( a fake someone else) and be like ohmygodd my friend soandso's boyfriend wont even let her go to the movies with her friends what a dick! and mabye he will be like eww i dont wanna be like that. idk , its all different. i hope this had some glimmer of hope for you and i hope you will make the right decision. even if it is to leave him . that could be hard depending on the level of crazy he acts. never be afraid , i'll be thinking of you . - cd
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reader, Missconfused2013 +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I completely understand!!! my last boyfriend was the exact same way. he was very manipulative. and got mad when i'd hang out with my friends. and he'd tell me that i should be hanging out with him not not them! i actually talked to my mom about it. and a few of my friends. and they told me that, look ahead into the future. can you see you self with him? Married? raising kids? if you can't...well break up with him. He's not worth your time when someone better them him is waiting out there for you. and chicks before dicks haha and you'll feel sooooo much better when you break up with him. maybe not at first because of his reaction. but soon you'll fill FREE! :)
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reader, Missconfused2013 +, writes (17 July 2010):
I completely understand!!! my last boyfriend was the exact same way. he was very manipulative. and got mad when i'd hang out with my friends. and he'd tell me that i should be hanging out with him not not them! i actually talked to my mom about it. and a few of my friends. and they told me that, look ahead into the future. can you see you self with him? Married? raising kids? if you can't...well break up with him. He's not worth your time when someone better them him is waiting out there for you. and chicks before dicks haha and you'll feel sooooo much better when you break up with him. maybe not at first because of his reaction. but soon you'll fill FREE! :)
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